Aquarius Men in Love and Help for the Partners Who Love an Aquarius Man
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If a young Aquarius man does fall in love with you and it is the first time for them there are problems too. They have suspicious minds and are likely to become control freaks. They’ll want to know where you are all the time and will question you about where you have been and who you have talked to. At first they will conduct the questioning in a casual, off hand manner but after a while they will openly question you.
Some partners of Aquarius men find the questioning and the checking up flattering at first but for most, answering their questions and offering them reassurance, becomes a chore. If the Aquarius partner is unable to sort this out and finishes with the Aquarius man they hardly ever get over it. If the partner actually does behave in the manner that the Aquarius suspects – by having an affair for example – it is even more unlikely that Aquarius will ever recover from it. They become, to use a cliché, “damaged goods” after such an experience. This is why older Aquarius men are so difficult to build a lasting relationship with – the idea of putting themselves in situations which could harm them emotionally leads them to ruin the relationship in the ways described above.
If you are in a relationship with an Aquarius man don’t expect them to fall in love with you. That’s a big mistake. On no account should you declare your love for them either – that’s a bigger mistake. Declarations of love – even casual or flippant declarations - have a similar effect to trapping a wild animal in a cage on the Aquarius man unless handled correctly (see below). Aquarius men find such declarations to be oppressive; they will panic and flee at the first opportunity.
In PART TWO we suggest ways of resolving these issues with younger and the more mature Aquarius man in love. There is nothing ever easy with the Aquarius man but if you are better prepared and recognize the problems at the outset rather than when they have become entrenched you will stand more of a chance - or decide to cut your losses and move on... CLICK HERE to read PART TWO of Aquarius Men in Love and Help for their Partners
you are right
ReplyDeleteThis is the only description I've found that confirms my persistent intuition that my aquarius partner has been sabatoging things because he's afraid. I'm glad to have found this, otherwise it would mean he's cold and heartless which didn't make sense at all.
ReplyDeleteSame here! 3yrs of him loving me one day and blaming me for stuff that doesn't even make sense. He broke up with be 4 times and again for the last time this year. Aqua man is in denial about his issues and will alwaaaays Blame his partner for ruining the relationship and making him go away!! Like cause the girl cries or is demanding for expecting him to show up on time . Whoa... Suckers !!
DeleteI am so glad I have found this blog and you are all going through the same thing as me. My aqua fella of three months was great albeit not big on emotional stuff which I didn't push. I went away on a work trip and he was texting me the whole time and got me cute presents before I went away and the minute I came back, nothing. No texts no correspondence he might as well have been dead. I asked him why he was ignoring my txts and said he was "busy". Like wtf? We have been in contact everyday since we met now nothing, it hurts so bad, and I feel his response never warranted a reply. They really need to man up, I don't know what they are so afraid of.
DeleteI did confess my feeling to him, but in such a way that I made it as blur as possible. I confused him and he got caught up by me. now, he's never leaving. in fact, he's with me all the time.
ReplyDeleteby the way, I'm an aquarius too. we are not lover yet, but why do i have to rush? after all, I enjoy his companionship :)
aquarians are damn cute...m one myself :)
DeleteI strongly agree mine is so fine.
Deletethis is amazing. I've been in TWO different year long relationships with Aquarian men in their 20's and reading this is 100% on point!!! I'm still with the second but by far the most challenging and trying relationship I've ever stayed in. Also, I am 29 while he is 23. I'm extremely independent and strong as mentioned above and I've struggled with staying in the relationship because I know he loves me but definitely more of a best friend soul mate than crazy in love hot passion. I could go on with examples of how this description of aquarian men is accurate in all my experiences!
ReplyDeleteMy first love ( an Aquarius ) has come back to me after 10 years , but is still afraid from past shenanigans of our relationship.
ReplyDeleteI love him to death , and he is my soul mate.I've never stopped loving him , but still am confused about the future of our relationship , and whether it will work practically ( since he has changed his lifestyle quite a bit ! )
He seems to be waiting to convince himself about my sincerity first.Which is the right thing to do.But now that I am becoming more and more sure about us , he won't see it !
They are fools , and only Libran girls ( like me ) can control them ;)
Happy mystery solving with your Aquarian men , girls ! It is truly an adventure !
So totally right on the adventure bit!
ReplyDeleteI just broke up with my Aquarius boyfriend whom I'd been with for 11 years. He first brought up the topic two years ago and said he wanted a one-year-break. My biggest mistake was to deny that and cling on the relationship.
A huge fight broke out on 1 Feb when I told him I was jealous that he was being so nice to other women, who were also his clients. But I told him that I know I should not be feeling that way, but just hoped he would give me some time to get through this.
He totally blew up and said really horrible and nasty things in front of our co-workers. I was devastated, angry and sad. But this time, I did not cry at all. Tears were in my eyes, but none rolled out.
After 11 years into our relationship, he told me that he was not happy with me at all for the last six years of our relationship. How can a girl take that? At that point, I was like "hello, what do you take me as? convenient store? or something?"
I asked why and he said I didn't have time for him to listen to his problems. True enough I was busy working and earning the last six years - and why? He had debts and his company was going downhill. But I did not want to see it close, so I took a loan and gave him the money. And because of the loan, I cannot afford to lose my job! I had to work doubly hard so that I can get pay raise quickly, in order to make the loan repayment a bit less destructive on my life.
Some may say I am stupid or dumb, but to be honest, I want to see him succeed, I really do. As much as I can, I want to help him. To date, he still owe me thousands of dollars which he claims some of it had been returned previously. I guess he just didn't realize how much he had taken from me and when he did, it was in small sums, so it didn't feel like much.
But to me, I really don't care about the money anymore. To me, I want him more than anything.
He went on an overseas business trip recently and spoke a lot to a female friend-cum-business partner, who is a lot more senior than him. And she seemed to have made him realize that he is too good for me and that I don't deserve him.
What she didn't know is the sacrifices I made for him. Monetary aside, I gave up my dreams and ideals for him. When his business partners kicked him out of business in 2005, I stayed on with him and was paying for most of the things when we went out.
The worst thing about Aquarius men, I feel, is that they are more like women than men. They expect to be pampered, but don't say it out. They want their partners to ask him how they are instead of telling their problems willingly.
They have pride and ego. They don't want to be seen as weak, that's probably why.
But my question is, when we broke up, he said "I loved you. I still love you. And I will always love you. There's no second girl who has touched my heart. I really love you, but we just cannot get along"
Confusion? I don't know. So what do I do now? Should I wait for him to wake up or should I just carry on? If I know he's coming back for sure, I would wait. Cos just like him, I will always love him too.
Any advice?
Advice is for you to love yourself a little bit that guy is taking advantage of you he loves himself anyways it is not your biggest mistake to deny the one-year break whot wants a one-year break he wants to go and explore things and then you would wait one year to find out if you want come back to you or not I mean Wake up Already!!!!!
DeleteI read what you wrote,my question did he come back? And I want to say this I know u love him and he knows you love him you made a sacrifice for him and yes he is coming back because after he go through the bullshit they realize who love them for real the thing is do you and enjoy your life what God has for you is for you nobody can take that from you whether he is for you or not trust God and put God first and trust God for your everything and see what he will do for you baby learn from this and grow from this know who u are and love you they love it when u love u. I am in a relationship with the aqua man and baby he is something else he say what he say and i say what i say we live together but baby i am trusting god he made him not man but god and he knows man future husband better than me.I wish you the best "Chocolate Thunder"
DeleteAdvice?!
DeleteHe ruined your life and if you let him get close to you again, he'll ruin you to the end.
Love yourself and find someone who loves you too.
There are some very good points here, my aqua man has even admitted to being more like a woman sometimes due to his highly sensitive nature. He proposed to me after only 5 wks and can sometimes be highly possessive, suffocating me a little. Then other times he acts like he hates me, dumps me after a row then tries to see me again. He gets infuriated at how silly we look as a couple, saying its like a pantomime between us. Yet he never sees his part in it. Im a gemini so were supposed to work well and i believe we are soul mates. We are somehow addicted to each other. We both think with our heads then pull away convincing ourselves its over, until our hearts scream at us and we come running back like a scene from a highly charged love story. Its all dramatic to say the least. And it wears you down so youre quite glad of the break sometimes lol!
ReplyDeleteWhat i can say though is i know he will be back as when you capture the heart of the uncatchable aqua you know it and so will he forevermore!!!
Take pride that you bagged him i say but dont let him take over you. My guy admits he doesnt want anyone else to even speak to me etc as he wants me all to himself and yet i know hed go off me if i didnt have my own life. He likes the chase and the mystery. He likes to have you but almost not have you which is why he will push you away.
The most difficult type to date though so good luck girls!!!
VERY DIFFICULT FOR A DATE, WORST RELATIONSHIP EVER IN MARRIAGE.FRUSTRATING FOR A WOMAN, YOU ARE ALL BY YOUSELF.INSECURE AND GETS PLEASSURE IN HURTING WOMAN.
DeleteGIRLS BECAREFULL OF A RELATIONSHIP WITH AN AQUARIAN MALE. SELF CENTRED. HE LIKES TO HAVE YOU,BUT ALMOST NOT HAVE YOU.
Need advice. Started seeing Aq man 6 weeks ago knew of him a little and I am several years younger and financial stable. When we met he was living with Taurus woman. They had been arguing some over dishonesty. He asked her to move out at the drop of a hat became very mean. After she moved out he wanted me to move right in and said he had never been happier and the sex is great. I asked him if he ever talked about marriage with this woman he said briefly. When I spoke to her she said they had talk in length about marriage and down to rings. He showed me a relationship video that she said he also showed her and told her he had never been happier. As I read Aq and Pisces will be firey for a short while then will explode, I am curious because I left my boyfriend for this to and it is early in the relationship yet. I am afraid he still loves this woman, and drop me in the same way and talk mean to me like he has her. It almost seems like a rebound or fantasy because of the age and sexual attraction. Any opinion would be helpful.
ReplyDeleteThank you for you advice Anonymous about Taurus woman, but can you give me reason why he suddenly left her and tells me that I am everything and doesn't want her back. Aq men are hard to understand and I realize she is more grounded then me, am I into being very hurt? To me our sex is very good but it is early in and I have a fourteen year old daughter that he will eventually have to get used to. All of the Taurus woman's kids are grown.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the insight, I really don't want to get hurt again. However, why to you say that. Is is because he moved right in with me and there was sex from the get go like convenience or is he not over he Taurus woman. According to him they have argued and he hates to argue, he left abrubtly and was real mean. She said they had talked about marriage but doesn't ever want to see her again. I am not sure if I am being used or if this love is real. We may only have the sex aspect and you are saying the Taurus sex is better. Please enlighten me. Please. If this is true how long will it take him to realize? He and I spent the weekend with my exhusband who was I think "kidding" not sure, that my bf has taking on all of the finances. Now I am sure he thinks I need him to take care of me, which most everything I have is paid. Don't think they are materialistic but don't want to take care of someone else. Please Advise.
ReplyDeleteI am dating an Aquarius man ( i mean bisexual guy) very manly, has great body, handsome, he totally has everything got cars and the like. I mean, i am a gay(Sagittarius), a young professor, from a reputable university...he only calls me whenever he wants to see me not that often once a week i guess, then we have sex in his car...then after that promising things to go out another day but didnt materialize coz he got invitation from his frends (boys and girls) - because hes not out i guess, very discreet....so everybody doesnt know about him....
ReplyDeleteand whenever i put comment in his facebook, he erased it, probably bacause he doesnt want to see me by his friends.
how do i gauge that he likes me? what are the signs?tell me
Interesting!! I am an acquarius man and currently seeing Leo women. We both are crazy about each other but we have run into few issues. After reading this article I have realized that I have done few things unconsciously which is sabotaging out relationship. To be honest, I don't how to stop doing that. It's like I am not in control of that behavior !!! Any suggestions ?
ReplyDeleteYeah try with all your emotions to dream of being perfect at night.
DeleteLeo women won't stand for wishy washy things. Either you want us you don't. If you do, you'll be treated like a king. If you don't then it's cool. We like having friends. Just be straight up with your intentions. We totally find that hot. Also if you aren't sure about what you think about us, just talk to us, communicating is the only way. People tell us their problems all day long. It's not like we haven't heard them before! In fact Leo's have this funny thing about them that people are always drawn to them. We can't honestly help it. I'll meet someone for like 10 min and their already crying to me asking for advice. Yeah so just open up enough so that she understands want it is that you're trying to say. Good luck
DeleteHi all,
ReplyDeleteJust want to seek some advice.
I have known this aquarius guy for just one year. He is a single father of two kids. When we first met, is through a social platform. It was very fun, full of laughter, we met, we clicked with each other.
But after the meet up, he seems to be a bit different. We only being in contact sometimes, and it is always me who will start the conversation.
I have try to understand their nature of flirting with other girls. After we met, he keeps his flirting session with others. There is one girl whom i've seen her facebook to be really in love with him. Then i sent him a message saying that, maybe I'm not good enough for him, so i'll better make a move.
To my surprise, that night after i sent him the sms, he have a big fight with the girl that i found her facebook. On that night also, this aquarian man cut off any flirts that he is currently having with her.
I was heartbroken at that moment to leave him, while i still need him. Then after a month, i wish him on his birthday. He reply to the wish and say thanks for the wishes. After that our relationship seems to restore to the normal condition.
Then on Valentine's day, i did not have the guts to wish him i love him cause i knew that i should not rush him in this kind of thing. But to my surprise, early morning on Valentine's day, he wishes my and say that he loves me. I find it hard to beleive and im so speechless.
I couldnt be more happier than that day. Months to months our relationship have ups and downs. Right now he seems busy flirting with others. When we have any issues, he seems to keep quiet, he didnt sound a thing. He always keep quiet although i know he can say whatever he like. But when it comes to me, whenever we had a fight, he opt to keep quiet.
And the other day, i found out that he wrote on his wall, saying that it would be nice if he had a gf, so that he wouldnt be lonely anymore.
I am totally confused, what does he takes me for? Whenever i want to leave him, he would never allow it, but he did not seem to care. He cares mostly about his friends or other activities and likes to flirt around, which is understandable to me as their nature.
I just need to know, whether he really means it when he says he loves me, cause i really want to be with him. He is one of the most caring and loving guy i ever met.
Any advice?
Iv'e been with my aquarius man for 4 yrs and im an aries he just started telling me he loves me just recently and it's freaking me out.I told him i love him too. I do in fact Love him but it caught me off guard. I rather see it in his eyes and his body language how he feels then for him to tell me like we have been doing for the past 4 yrs til now but, i dont want to tell him to not tell me he loves me if that's truely how he feels.
ReplyDeleteWhat it says up there for young aqua men is so true and i find it flattering even after 4yrs of him asking where i am what iam doing and who im with or who am talking to ect... I know it's a piece of mind for him but it makes me feel as if he truely cares.
We broke up once in the 4yrs we were dating because we both felt overwhelmed with our relationship and people were telling us we should get married and it freaked us both out so we started dating other people I relised that i wanted him back becuase no one else that i have met had a mind like my aqua man and i dont want to be dating a brick wall and weirdly enough he felt the same about other girls as well so we got back together.
I'm a cancer and my current aquarian boyfriend was my college sweetheart for 3 years until I dumped him because all my friend said he flirted too much with all the girls and I just couldn't stand the pressure. It took him long enough to tell me he loved me before he did, he treated me badly and our relationship was never clear , however one day he told me he was going to change and treat me better, he did so much so that he was wherever I was, I couldn't have a moment to breath, after I broke up with him five years ago and moved to another country, he did everything he could to find me and come after me and I just kept pushing him away because of the bad memories I had of how he had been bad to me before the change over the past five years he has gone to crazy lengths to get to me until finally last year I decided to get back with him and he has treated me like a princess and told the whole world about me even using my picture as on his profiles and giving me all his passwords even bank details, arranged all kinds of surprises for me, the list goes on. He however is very possessive and when I visited his house he would follow me everywhere and go through my phone even answering my phone and got angry when I went for a walk in the morning, I have tried to tell him how I don't appreciate it but he apologises and the next minute he is at it again, guess we have to work on that because I love him so much and I know he loves me without a doubt. I also have to put up with the string of friends male and female that I have to get along with regardless of the fact that I'm an introvert and so not the socialite that he is.
ReplyDeleteWow....I've had alot these very thoughts 2day about my Aquarian friend....he running from this love he has for me bcuz he's once again become afraid of how & what he feelz 4 me..love!
ReplyDeleteIm a Scorpio and find it necessary to cheat on my Aquarius friend to survive him. I greatly am attracted and really care about him, but he does not give me the attention I require. We are sickeningly passionate, seems like we are sexually addicted to each other. The strangest thing I have experienced with a man. Im there for him when he is ready, but I do my own thing on the side. I feel that I like him so much I do whats necessary for us to stay together. He would never believe what his loyal pal has been up to.
ReplyDeleteI'm a scorpio too that just started dating a Aquarius man....we have a huge attraction to one another but I can already see that he likes his space and just wants me when "he" wants me. I'm going to continue to date other men...I think it's wise not to get too emtionally attached to this man even though I'm already crazy about him...so I can understand why you would need to do your own thing on the side. We, Scorpios, need a lot of attention and need to feel wanted all the time.
DeleteWow, I am a leo woman and would describe exactly that. The attraction between the two of us was sickening. He became an addiction and I simply couldn't get enough, He hightened my senses .. and WOW.. But he dipped. He's gone now and I miss him so! and I am PISSED. I should have done what you did. That would have made so much more sense.
DeleteI'm a gemini cusp in love with an early aquarian man (January 22). I think he has many more of the capricorn traits to his personality, i.e. overly practical, not emotionally romantic, etc...i know he cares about me and we seem to be "off in our own little world" when we are together-- i.e. totally mentally connect/in love, but i've noticed that the longer we're together and the better things get, the more he has these "freak episodes" of distancing himself from me and all but telling me he can't be the man I want; even if I have said or done nothing! It is surely sabotage, and i know that his behavior is disingenuous because he always, always comes crawling back...HELP?!
ReplyDeleteWow I thought I was alon. My aquarius man is exactly as described. He told me he loved me recently but I don't believe him. Thisis the most accurate wording I have seen! Now...question is..how do you get an aqau man to commit.....
ReplyDeleteWe are more then friends that the way my Aquarius man tells it I am Leo we have strong feelings and he told me I make him happy but the commitment part is really an issue he is telling me he is single, he have chat with other ladies, He always tell me i don't have to worry about another woman in his life he don t want to rush or label our relationship he want to take it easy to see how things are going and whats more in store i know all the characteristic of this man and i work with them and to be honest i don't rush him we do nice things with his children and mine child but i know don't talk about love, married or occupied his space I know he like me and enjoy my company so i leave it like that for now
ReplyDeleteMe and my Aqua man have amazing sex. it seem thats all we have. We have children together and we can't even agree on anything when it comes to them. we both have history in cheating. but its like we cant leave eachother alone. we never have a good whole day. for me he doesn't give me the attention i yearn for. with him idk because he never express hisself. only when he in need of sex.i'm so confused should i just let go of an on and off 11 year relationship?
ReplyDeletea confused leo woman
to "confused leo woman":
DeleteAquamen barely express themselves emotionally, but if they ever do, it's with a Leo girl. Practically all Aquarius men have one way or the other been affected emotionally by a Leo female...
Just follow your heart with the decision of staying with him. The heart's never wrong.
I am an Aquarian female dating an Aquarian male!! This will be the first Aquarian male i have dated so was looking for some tips very useful reading so far!!
ReplyDeleteI am a Cancer female and dated an Aquarius guy for a year and a half and he was just like the description of a young Aqua. Extremely possessive, insecure and sneaky.We both have horrible tempers, but I was more patient with mine and put up with a lot, maybe too much. I finally let him go because I found out he had another girlfriend living in another state (she was a Sagittarius).But before I let him go I told the Sag everything and then I let him have a peice of my mind.
ReplyDeleteFast forward to the present, and we recently got back into contact and sometimes I regret it, and sometimes I do not.He says he is not realtionship material and that he doesnt want to get married ever, but for some reason I just don't buy it, though I am not trying to get back with him and have made it clear I wish to only be friends.So why would an Aquarius man try to question me about my new love interest(a pisces), and continually text me, and ask me to hang out if he knows I want to be with someone else?
I've been seeing my Aq man for the past 6 wks. I'm a lot younger than him. I'm in my 20s & he's in his 40s. He freaked me out recently when he said he loves me. We've only been knowing each other for 3 months! I do like him, we have a good time together and I am very attracted to him but he's not fooling anyone when he says he loves me. His old ass should know better than that. I do feel that he likes me and enjoys my company but sometimes I feel him so distant, and he shows no emotion! He's so hard to read, I'm not sure what he wants. By the way I'm a Pisces.
ReplyDeleteI am a Taurus woman dating an Aquarius man. We've been colleagues for a year and he's always been very nice to me. 2 months back we started dating and immediately after he'd converted to Islam (just so he could marry me, he said, as he's married with 3 kids in our home country). He said he'd been emotionally distant from his wife for the past 7 years as he suspects that their youngest child is not his son, and his wife has not done anything to negate his suspicions.
ReplyDeleteNow he lives with his half sister and has expressly forbidden me to call or text him whenever he's home, as he said it's still too early for her to know about us. He also doesn't want to spend time with me on our days off, as he said we see each other at work everyday anyway, which really dismays me as we cannot be affectionate there as its not professional and our other colleagues doesnt know about "us". In fact, when he thinks I cannot hear, he still flirts with another colleague and when I express my disappointment about it, he says he's just playing along with her.
I have tried many times to break up with him but he always begs to be taken back, saying he loves me deeply, is not complete without me, and just needs time until December when he'll marry me coz by then his conversion to Islam would have been complete. I truly love him as I believe he's really a very good person, and we are actually very happy every time we are together .. but Im just so confused with his half sister situation because he always prioritizes her over me and it really bothers me that I cannot freely contact him if I know that he's with her. Can anybody enlighten me on this? I dont know if I should just give up or keep on loving him and believing his promises.
Thank you so much as your blog is very enlightening.
I don't think she's his sister...
DeleteThat's EXACTLY what I think too. I mean why couldn't he just go out of the room or house when he talks to her on the phone. And why couldn't she text him if this woman is only his sister? Why would she be looking at his phone to see who texts? That right there would have made me suspicious as hell.
DeleteHi, I am an aquarius woman and met an aquarius man a number of years ago. I know this sounds like a crazy story. He asked me out twice and I did not respond even though I was madly attracted to him. Just did not feel good enough and feared rejection. After a few months I contacted him coz I just could not get him out of my mind. He responded immediately! To cut a long story short a date was sort of arranged but never materialised. It is 5 years ago now and I still cannot get him out of my mind! I have started reading about the star sign aquarius and perhaps he feared rejection too. Would really appreciate any comments. THanks
ReplyDeleteTo the Taurus woman dating Aqua man, who converted to Islam to marry you. Are you sure that the woman he is living with, is actually his half-sister? It's quite strange that he doesn't want to spend ANY time with you outside of work. So just because he lives with his sister, he cannot have a social life and meet you? I don't think he needs to be that afraid of his half-sister. Something fishy about his excuses, don't you think? I'm just asking this because Aquas are quite good with lies, two-timing and notorious for having no-labels attached kind of relationships with many women simultaneously. Please be careful when handling an Aquarius man. All of a sudden some people find out that the Aqua man is not who they thought he was. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteSo true...just experienced this myself after 13 years...smh...just sad. :O(
DeleteHi, I would really appreciate any advice on the above. I posted on 4 August 2011. Many thanks
ReplyDeleteYour comment of 4th August has been answered HERE:
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I started dating an aqua man about a month ago. Had 2 dates in one week, we was very attentive, kissing, hugging, complimentary etc, both times. Then heard nothing from him for a week, made tentative plans for that day which fell thru, finally saw him about 5 days later, 2 nights in a row, again very attentive, loving, complimentary Once again nothing for several days now. We clearly have something very special when we are together and I find myself very attracted to him. I don't want to get in his space, but wondering if he is waiting for me to make communication or he is simply doing the disappearing act I have read that they do? Also he is 48, I am a 54 y.o. aries...he does not know my age (and has never asked), is the older woman thing a turn on or turn off for aqua guys (I do look younger than my age)? Reading all these struggles with aqau men is disheartening though I find I would rather spend infrequent time with him, than frequent time with anyone else. Any answers or suggestions would be helpful. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteRE: post on Aug 14...another of his traits is that he always runs late? I've done a lot of reading about the aqua man recently, seems it can take months/years to get him to commit with lots of down time in between. So why should a woman hang on with soo much down time. I'm beginning to think it is a bit thoughtless on their part to simply disappear at whim, with no communication then suddenly return with vim and vigor as if that is all completely normal. I have no problem giving people space, but I quess my question is how are you supposed to get to know someone if you only see each other 3 or 4 times a month, with little communication in between? I could really use some help here, as I am feeling confused (have never dated an aqua guy) but feel he and I could have the potential to share something special. What are my best options, please?
ReplyDeleteANY GEMINI WOMAN-AQUA MAN CASES HERE? my aqua guy left me and i cant take it nemore.. we hv slipt many time in past 3 years but came back to each other with newer beginings. but this time luks like this is a real break up :(
ReplyDeleteWill he come back? am really confused. -AN
I have a very different problem with my present Aquarius boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteAll started very fast, I'm an illustration artist and he was my personal trainer.
After less than a week he started slowly moving into my apartment and my life! Now when he's not working he's at home with me. (he has his own home)
He wants to MARRY me, he says I'm the perfect marrying type for him and that he can't get bored around me. He's always talking about having kids, and that we (I) should hurry (I'm 35, he's 29).
I'm a piscis, and I have trusting issues and jealousy... he does everything to appease my mind/heart.
But... yep.. there is a but...
I don't feel he is love with me!
Feels like he wants to be committed because of me, not for being crazy about me.
He says I'm funny, amusing, intelligent, trustworthy, caring, sweet, with a great body... but he never says I'm beautiful like before, when he was trying to fish me!
I know I'm not his type: tall, blonde hair with blue eyes.
I'm 5,2, with long light brown hair and hazel greenish eyes.
He tends to like mature women, and I am the baby face type.
So...
I don't understand why he's with me if he is not in love!
I would truly appreciate any advice on my post from 8/14&17. Saw him again after a 2 wk hiatus, this time things seemed very scattered, with no plan for a future date, though he now calls me sunshine. I am more confused than ever. Thanks
ReplyDeleteWell I wonder are you seeing the same guy as me because my Aguarius man calls me Sunshine too. He started off really fast with our relationship and told me that he had waited 51 years to find a girl like me. I fell really hard for him and then he just back the hell up, left me so confused! I have never felt such a strong connection with anyone. We had everything in common and had the best time when we were together. I really don't think they know how to love even though he tell me that he does and always will. He just says we love differently and thats its just not fair to me. I am so tired of trying to understand him. I just wished I could walk away and forget the Aquarius man, he is just to fickled!!!!
Deleteu must have thick skin to be with them. If he didnt call u,just ignore him,if he didnt meet u,dont meet him,if he need space,give him a lot of space that he want.To love him is to ignore him.If he is back,then he is yours.If not,then u need to move on.
ReplyDeleteIf you're weak,please avoid this man because they will make you suffer badly.Like me,he make me suffer .No other man has done like he did to me.But in the other side,i must be thankful because he taught me a lot to appreciate everything around me,he wake my spiritual side and i can sensed that he is missing piece of my jigsaw and my soulmate (my moon in 8th house in pieces and i have a good instinct too.)but sadly i must admit that sometimes,your soulmate is just someone who teach you about life and once the lesson completed,he will leave you and it happened to me.
Just give them a space that they want and enjoy your life and once he is back,u can share your laugh together again.
My story is zactly urs , am Pisces
DeleteLibra women..
ReplyDeleteMy story is some what complicated so I met an aqarius man 4yrs ago when we first met his big mouth and over bearing confidence turned me off so for 3weeks ignored him Only he wouldn't give up eventually we started talking and instantly I had an overwhelming unbelievable connection with my aq man, it felt like I knew him forever.. Anyways he would always tell me he wanted to see me make arrangments and cancel last minute i would always make a huge fuss about be pissed distant myself still whenever he contacted me he'd talk me right back in *I feel like a have weakness where he is concerned I hate him yet love him, am I losing my effin mind?? We Just got back in contact over the summer from a break he told me how he missed me so much and he even told me he loved me but he wants to see me when he can appreciate me and I can appreciate him.. So continuing idk wtf happen but he just went crazy made up some story about him getting in an accident *which I knew the second his cousin told me was lie* and became distant he would say his phones messed up ok so after 4yrs of his drama and mean hurtful ish I had enough so I decided I was going get em back this summer for the hurtful ish he did &standing me up a dozen times, so i sent him pics of this guy I was dating (who by the way is a douche bag cancer who only wanted to use me but just so happen to be really cute n have a huge penis) So my aq man was super pissed and instantly became this a really mean asshole so he never confronted me about the photos which is why I assumed he was hurt b cus I know aq men have no problem saying what's on there mind so to retaliate when I called him and he had a women answer and tell me that I had my shot and it was over wow I was shocked but not really so I haven't called him he hasn't called me its been a month and two weeks I swear I wanna get out of my head but just keep thinking about him *& this little situation is small with the pics and the girl compared to what we went tru last year *CAN SOMEONE PLS HELP SHOULD I wait till he comes around or just say f it but how if I can't get him out of my damn mind I think I love him but howw can u love someone u barely know????? HELP ME!!!
Hi, I am a Taurus woman who has dated an aquarius man for 3 months. From the moment we met, I never thought that he was interested in me but he sent me a text saying how he enjoyed my company, how beautiful I was and how he wanted to kiss me. However, everytime we met he would be quite cold and I would be the one to make the first move and kiss him. We had some great dates and I felt he was warming up to me but he would do the disappearing act where I wouldn't hear from him and wouldn't see him for two weeks. I was getting frustrated with the situation and texted him, asking him why we didn't see each other regularly;to which he replied that he wasn't intentionally avoiding me but he couldn't commit in terms of time. He also said he enjoyed what we had but couldn't give more at this stage. Therefore, I ended it saying that I really wanted him but couldn't accept such a relationship. The problem is that I can't get him out of my head? Should I contact him again? I am at loss.
ReplyDeletehey taurus women trust me dont bother contacting him -he must be flirty with other women simultaneously n when he gets free he will come running- dont run after him he wont appreciate it-
ReplyDeletetrust me its his loss n not urs
u r lucky u got rid of him
run....................find urself worth it kind
I dont understand the following, is this what u do to push the aqua man away or what you do to get their attention?
ReplyDelete"To handle the unconscious moves of the Aquarius man to ruin your relationship you must bring it to his attention – so the moves become conscious. Ask him in a level headed, reasoned way “Are you doing this to end our relationship?” If you allow him to treat you badly he will abandon his respect and love for you anyway so you have nothing to lose."
im dealing with all the flakiness and distance of the aqua man you all have described as well. seeing him only twice a month, not hearing from him for 1-2 weeks sometimes.
i need him to show me more respect and give me more attention, actually treat our relationship like a relationship. whats the best way to get through to him and make him chase me?
im scared that if i keep putting up with his behavior without saying anything, he'll think it's ok to act this way. he wont put in effort and treat me well.
This is a GREAT question! I feel the same way, I need to put my foot down to make sure he respects me...too bad no1 has answered this one
DeleteHi Taurus woman,if you can run than u must run away..because when you stuck with him,there is no way to escape anymore.. i'm taurean too..look for someone who worth to wait,worth for your love..
ReplyDeletetaurus n aquarius can be a really gud frens but not a lover...this is based on my experience. you cant pull him to the earth. he just want to be in the air..The attraction is damn strong for both sides. But when the love exist, he will run away from you. He will disappear maybe 4-5 months,analyzing you.explore someone else,stalking other woman until one day,he realize,you're the one than he will come back to you..but you know his trait..he will disappear over n over again when he feels the strong love..it's hard to explain but to be with him,you must have a strong mind if not,this relationship can only give you suffer n pain..
Well, Im a sag woman (32) who was dumped by an aqua man (45) in the begining, he chased me. We were together for 4 months, we saw each other regularly, didn't mind the day or two we didn't ( i love my space too) then one day, just up and told me that I reminded him of his ex, who wanted more of a commitment and he just "knew" our relationship would end the same :(..basically, he forced it to end. Unfortunately, I miss him like crazy!!!What can I do to get over him..it's been 3 months and I still find myself thinking about him..
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 14,17 & 27 Aug (who is 54)
ReplyDeleteBad news? This does not seem to have any potential to develop any further.
Count yourself lucky it's been only just over a month and still fresh enough for you to run.. and I do mean run. I say this from experience.
I was in a relationship with my aqua man for just under 5 months. My aqua was at least stable in that we would see each other once a week without fail (he was studying) during the whole relationship. He never did the hot/cold thing but I always felt an aloofness from him.
By the way, age I don't think really matters and I think its more personal than an astrological thing. I'm 43 and my aqua is 25.
Problem is they hook you. You then crave that amazing experience but they won't let you have it, Aqua men like to be in control. I'm guessing the fact that you posted here means you're unhappy so that I think, is your answer.
Believe me, I totally get where you're coming from when you say:
I would rather spend infrequent time with him, than frequent time with anyone else.
I felt exactly the same.. and I was very happy seeing him only once a week as I'm an extremely independent woman who likes to enjoy her space. HOWEVER, and this is a biggie, I guarantee if you pursue anything further with this man, you will regret it. This is the way he is - Aqua men LOVE their space, and if he's like this from the very start (when they should be sooo keen), what is he going to be like when he gets bored, and bored Aquarians do become. The reason I also say you will regret it is that, as women, we naturally want the relationship to move to the next level at any given point. Each woman has her own time frame for this. So using my example, as each month passed, I fell in love with him and in the last month or so of my relationship, naturally wanted to spend more time with him. As soon as we had a discussion about our future (he instigated it by the way), BOOM he was off and disappeared - no sms, no phone calls, no explanation - nothing., completely ignored me and my (few) attempts at contact. I chose not to pursue him and have gotten on with my life (with zero contact from him in 1-2 months since).
Sag(32) here from Nov. 29 post. Although I may never know why the aqua man chose this style of dating, it is comforting to know that it isn't "us" it's actually "them". I agree, they are immature and this may be evident with how they deal with relationships. My aqua man too instigated our future, he's the one that actually told me my ring size (I never bothered with stuff like this) and once he got me to engage in the conversation, like clock work he vanished. I know in my bones he's already had another victim, some poor girl out there thought she's found the one, instead found satan himself.
ReplyDeleteI have been with my aqua boyfriend for over a year. He hasnt told me he loves me and hides me from his family? He spends almost everyday with me. He's defo not the romantic type but i see he tries. He has met my entire family and now with the holidays coming - it feels odd not to see him over. I live on my own and he still livs with his family. Ps. Im a virgo and we get along very well, we do bicker at times. HELLLLLLLP!
ReplyDeleteInteresting - Just getting to know an Aquarius man who I am really attracted to. Yet Leo woman and Aquarius man dont seem want same from life. Ironically though within Chinese calender we are both metal rats - interesting - watch this space
ReplyDeleteLeo woman here was dating this Aqua men for 2 yrs and i can see all the same thing people
Deleteexperiens:
hot and cold
distance
no commitment type
freaky men
liars
its better to be friends with these men, and they always want to be friends, they will always talk about the first love good or bad
they will dump you and after awhile come looking for you again and again,and when they see your getting attached they show distance, you hear from them every day for two weeks then you dont hear them again they disapear for months and come back blamming you for his disappearing.
My ex aqua is a bad liar when ever he starts lying he will trun his face and start talking about something else.
I always had the feeling that he was having chats with other ladies when i was asking him about he was saying he just chat they dont talk about meeting or sex, is all just a chat and is to pass time.
I had a key to his house and last week i went in to his house his laptop was on and i found the most dirty porn stuff on his laptop and chat on yahoo where ladies removing their clothing for him while he is......... him self, is was discusting and he is a father a 4 kids i could not believe what i saw, phone call with all kind of ladies.
I was so pissed at him that i told him i will let all this ladies know that he copy all their naked body and put them on his laptop, i told him in my anger that his manhood was small that why his ex wife was cheating on him big time, i told one the ladies about his dirty act and now she contacted me for more information, i am done with him
before i found out about all his freaky stuff he told me that it better for us to be friend, and why because he was in contact with someone else, but she now know about his dirty acts. I never heard from him again. I know he HATE me for doing that
I have no idea what to do anymore. I was recently broken up with by an Aqaurius male (24). I am a leo female (22). We have been on and off for the past 7 years. I know we are both young but I have been there for him and seen him through some of his darkest moments. He did his best to try and push me away, but I was intent on being their for him. To say the least and without going into too much detail we went through A LOT!. 7 years is a long time for both good and bad experiences. We were finally solid for the past 2 and a half years or so I thought. He broke up with me 3 years ago and after 2 months came back and said he realized what I meant to him, he loved me and he was going to stay by my side. It took me some time to believe him, but I eventually did. He hasn't loved or cared for himself for a while. He has been battling demons over the years. Finally, it seemed as if he were getting better. As soon as that happened he broke it off. He told me he needed to focus on what he wanted to do with his life (career path) and he didn't want to feel the guilt of not being able to be fully present in the relationship, but most of all he needed to learn how to love himself and repair relationships with his family and be there for his friends. This time, unlike before he did not give me any hope for a future with him. When I asked if he would ever call me again to talk or something he said "I've called on you for the past seven years now it's time for me to call on myself." At the end of the break up he told me he loved me and kissed me goodbye (I left feeling very mixed up and heartbroken) and that is the last I heard from him. That was 2 months ago. I called him about 3 weeks in and left him a message saying I hope he was doing good and taking care of himself and that I loved him. Since then I have not tried to reach out in any form (not even through mutual friends). Our break up was very bittersweet there were no fights or arguing. We left it on an "I love you." I will admit there were moments in the relationship where I became a little needy but I was working on it and getting better. The ironic part is the week prior to the break up we were talking about what would happen if we broke up. He told me that he would come look for me one day, I told him I didn't believe him and he asked said why wouldn't he look for me. He told me I knew him better than anyone else and he won't ever let anyone get that close again.
ReplyDeleteI have been slowly picking up the pieces and trying to reclaim myself, but I miss him everyday and I am still in love with him. I know people say time heals all wounds, yes this is true, but in my heart I know he is the only one who will ever really hold the key to my heart. I wonder if he'll ever come back before when he would leave he would say it was over but he came back, but this time it feels different because it was under different pretenses and because it was so heartfelt.
I do not know what I want out of posting this comment, but all I know is I love him and I wish he would come back (on my good days I believe he will, but even those moments are fleeting). I am doing things very differently now. I am giving him his space. I've read endless pages on Aquarian males and the way they love. But it's so hard for me to wrap my mind around how easy it was for him to just let me go (at least show on the surface). I do wonder if he thinks of me and if he misses me and if he still loves me.
I just don't know what to do.....
@anonymous 26 December 23:47
ReplyDeleteJust be sure that he will be back and get on with living your life. No outward signs of sadness. No disastrous rebound relationships. No losing control and beseeching him to come back.
Send him birthday cards if you must.
You need to put yourself at the center and grow as a person. Make money, excel at your career, make your home just the way you like it. There is nothing more attractive to an Aquarius man than a strong, assertive, individual. You become this and you just might meet someone else worthy of you - which would teach this Aquarius man a lesson - this course of action will also rebuild the confidence you have lost.
You are right to think that he will not get as close to anyone again.
Please update with progress whenever that is but this should take a few years to resolve.
i am in love with an aqua girl form last 3 years,,i am aqua too....pesently we are having a really hard time.....her parents do no agree for Our relation nd dosent give aproval for our marriage....We had really good tym nd bad tym too,,i know she love me deeply..but from last 4 month she is behaving like cold hearted,,no sentiments at all..just pickin our bad tym nd just confusing me a lot.nd she ignores me a lot...but she does leave me also,we be like a friend after a few days like nothin happened,,but on the same time when i talk about realtion..she just become sad and vanishes again ......she know's i cant leave without her,,so she always ignore me too make a self dependent man ..but does not clear me about the futuree..tht i should move on or wait for her.........but i really want her back.......I just mad when i talk to her,,because i can feel the strength of aqua and aqua realtion,, dont wanna loose her .......
ReplyDeleteJUST HELP ME PLEASE,,MY AQUA GIRL CONFUSES ME A LOT,......
I just don´t how to deal with my aqua ex... When we first met I didn´t even like him, for me he was just another guy...
ReplyDeleteHe told me he was broken-hearted by a pisces woman and I tried to confort him.. I just wanted to be nice because I felt sorry for him... but suddenly he started to flirt with me, even when he became involved with some slut in our class (we all studied together).
He finally convinced me into an affair with him (I stil don´t know how... It was after a kiss he gave me.. it made me lose my mind :( )... I was involved with someone at that time.. and I cheated that person with this aquarius man... Because of this I finished my relationship with the other person (I felt terribly guilty) and started to date him. It was really good sexually but he told me upfront he didn´t wanted to get so involved into a relathionship...
He also told me he cared about me and that he wanted me... I guess I was really naive at that time... I started to feel things for him and to feel frustrated because he never wanted to speak about his life with me... He told me some things but I never really got to know him... I just couldn´t have a conversation with him. He started treating me really bad and cruel... I felt really hurt... I felt like I was being used and he didn´t give a damn about me... I guess I deserved that after all....
Then one day after he was specially mean to me and I felt specially awful and he realize that.. he just dissapeared.. He dissapeared for 6 six days until one morning he called me saying that he couldn´t see me anymore, he actually gave me some pathetic excuse too... I thought that was the end but after a few months he started calling me again.. I didn´t answer his messages... I was angry at him because I felt I was so stupid and caused so much pain to my ex boyfriend for him and he treated me like that... Also I started dating my current boyfriend.
Several months later he called me and said he was really sorry for the way he broke up with me... and we arranged a meeting between us... I just wanted to be his friend... I wanted peace.. But when I saw him he just stared talking about the awful relathionships after me, that he came back to the pisces woman who broke his heart but he discovered he didn´t love her anymore.. and I listened, I gave him advices and all... he seemed to be really messed up and sad... I tried to make him feel better.. and just when I thought we had the chance to be friends.... he asked me If he could kiss me??? WTF!! I was angry but I controlled myself and told him that I was seeing someone else... I won´t forget his expression.. He was totally shocked... He managed to keep up appereances and congratulated me...
After that meeting he´s being calling me for a month.. but he doesn´t speak too much.. he makes this akward silences... and I feel so confused.. I don´t know what he wants from me.. and it´s starting to affect me real bad...
Any advice??
What does he wants??!
He wants the game of cat and mouse. He wants the chase. It drives him crazy you don't want him anymore. If you decide to go back to him, he'll leave again eventually because he conquered. My advice stay away. Now, if I can only keep my own advice if my aqua man ever comes back because lord knows I am additted with a sickness to him.
DeleteThank you so much!! You were absolutely right!!
Deletehey....m a scorpion woman in love wid an aquarian guy....we hv been in a relatn for d past 1.5 years...n all's fine except dt d relation has lost its charm...we fyt a lot over small issues and he calls me or meets me only ven he feels lyk..he dsnt treat me d way i want to..i know he loves me..but he never shows it..he never gives surprises..even after tellin him clearly ...and i dont think he is ever gonna chage..and d small fyts turn into big issues n i loose my mind...n i knw d relatn l not change..is dere anythign i can do to make him a bit more romantic? a bit more passionate ???
ReplyDeleteI am a scorpio woman that was involved with an aqua man off and on for 4 years. I am not perfect but this man took me to hell and back. He has a "baby mama" that tried to destroy the realtionship many times and won ( she is a libra) she has a boyfriend now and has settled down but the scars still remain. He left me for her more than once, was sneaky and on dating sites he says he only would do these things when we would fight. He also grew up without his mom ( his mom is in his life now) and a loser father who lives in his basement for free, don't get me wrong it's not that I mind it's the fact that aqua man was looking at me for rent money and nothing from his father, I will not stand for that that is not fair at all. His dad won't work , find work , or do anything, he gets welfare but does not give any to his aqua son. LOSER! He also taught aqua that " all women are whores".
ReplyDelete"My" aqua also has a drinking problem. One min, this aqua would tell me I have more say with his son , wanted me to go out and do things and this and that and when I would he would turn around and change his tune. I could never win , everything was always my fault. He didn't respect me and even when I was telling the truth he would not believe me , it seemed he took everyone elses side over me. But at the same time he would be so sweet, rub my feet and legs nightly , tell me im beautiful all the time as well as " i love you" " I want to grow old with you" " you are the one" and I am and always have been able to tell when someone is being honest or there is a fake in the room. And I honestly believe and felt that he was telling the truth when he would say those things.
Also as the same , he was controlling , posessive, jealous. No one could talk to " his girl" but him. He could get away with murder and if I did the same thing in return , it was my fault, I " ruined this" and everything else. But if he did it it was ok and I was supposed to forgive him. I gave up. I told him I love him but not his life and some of the people in it , plus I am done watching him drink his face off with his next door neighbour. Also I said I would not have kids with any man who drinks in front of the child he has already. Selfish he is. I slip sometimes and text him mostly because I am so pissed that I spent all of my time and energy getting him to open up which he did a lot and showing him that all women are not whores. And I am upset because my efforts for years havent done much. I have not heard from him all day and dont want to. Im hoping he will better himself and I will better myself and we will be again in the furture but as of right now I want to be away from him and hope he realizes what he lost as I know he will not find anyone like me and he has even said that himself I showed and taught him things that he will never forget.
So hopefully he changes in this time apart. and if not then in the meantime i will get my life back together and maybe fall onto a man who is exactly that. A man not a boy who needs a mother. But then again , he is and always will be my first love. Sound confused? I am.
This is a great website and spot on when it comes to consistency of Aqua traits. I have been together with an aquarius man for almost four months. It was intense from the moment we met and he made it clear he was VERY interested in me. I was taken back by this intensity and hesitant as a result, even though he seemed like quite the catch...good looking, charming, intelligent, well-travelled etc... (my dream man). But the intensity was crazy and it took me a couple weeks to really come around and completely feel the same (which I eventually did).
ReplyDeleteAs he said after only a few weeks, he "wanted to put a ring on my finger" and asked me if I "wanted to be his wife one day" and "if I wanted to spend my life with him" and that it will be a "beautiful and adventurous life together".
Anyways, I eventually fell head over heels in love, but then things began to fall apart.
I sensed he was not being open and honest about his past. I didn't feel there were bad intentions, nor did I feel like he was hiding anything currently in our relationship, but that he was afraid to tell me about certain things in his past (which involved a past relationship with an ex-fiancee).
However, we eventually moved in together even though the relationship had become unstable and he had shown again and again he wanted to run (if I was smart I would have let him run at that time). But I could no longer deal with this uneasiness in my stomach that he wasn't telling me the truth about certain things.
So what I did was ask a million questions about the same things which of course drove him crazy and created pressure on him! My dilemma was that I wanted to believe him and let it go, but I COULDN'T as my intuition was nagging at me.
To make a long story short, it terms out he did lie, my intuition was very right, and it took a week for him to admit he had lied to me. He still isn't sorry. He still blames me (because I had to do a little snooping to discover the truth....gotta do what you gotta do), and he has since turned really mean. He is now working out of the city for a few weeks in the middle of nowhere, which is a good thing, as it is giving him the space he desperately needs.
In short, he is intense, stubborn, hard headed, irrational and runs like hell when he feels pressure. He gets very turned off very quickly from needy, insecure, overly emotional women (even though these same women can be the opposite if they are in a secure relationship).
Unfortunately, being in a relationship with an aquarius man can make any woman feel very insecure. Often you start off feeling so secure, on top of the world, and in love, with no doubts about your man.
But soon, his behavior can switch like a sunny day turning to night....and he can do a complete 360 without feeling bad about it in terms of the impact it has on you.
He can be brutal. And he is a runner. And it will always be a roller coaster ride with this guy.
But it can also be passionate and loving and exciting....so it is difficult to end it.
In my situation, only time will tell. I have been texting him like crazy this past week with this and that...what has pissed me off in terms of how he has handled things....insisting on an apology (yaaa right...he will never see his wrongs) etc... But after all this research on this web, I have decided to completely back off. Give him his space. Break it off completely for a while. No texts. No phone calls. Nothing.
Go fly like a bird Mr. Aquarius and we will see in a few weeks if you return...or a few months. Only then, it may be too late.
Yep. Same ol' story, same ol' song and dance. I am Scorp. female "dating" and Aqua man for the last four months. He did everything to convince me that this relationship was worth it. I wasn't really feeling it and seen some early issues with the hot/cold aspect. However, he declared (with tears in his eyes) that he was "in" love me and asked me to try. I knew in the pit of my stomach that I was in love with him too (actually I knew this very early and felt almost completely open and gutted, it was terrifying).
ReplyDeleteWell after spending wonderful and amazing time together my Aqua man has been going AWOL the past few weeks. It was a gradual distancing, but he is definitely doing it. When I confront him, he states nothing has changed and that he loves me. It is so confusing.
These stories have definetly helped me figure out some things about my aquarius ex boyfriend. Me and him started going out in highschool,I was a freshman and he was a sophomore. We got along great.We went out for 3 and a half years and the last year we hung out alot so we fought more and got on each others nerves I guess.He would ignore my texts and calls,put me thru hell basically.He would ignore me for a week when we were fighting,say mean things and one day in his driveway he broke up with me.His words were "I love you but I just cant do this anymore,we fight to much".I was a wreck. Come to find out a couple months after he was texting my ex best friend that I wasnt friens with anymore asking her to hang out and such.I found out about it and started talking to her again and I seen the texts from him to her asking her to hang out.They did hang out and all he did was talk and talk and they just grabbed a bite to eat.A year after we broke up, we got back together in the summer time and his excuse for texting her was because "he was lonely and needed someone to hang out with".I guess it was understandable because at that time he didnt have much friends due to working alot and school.I let it slide.Me and him went out for a month, we got into a little fight,he ignored me yet again for a week and one night I got a text saying.."I think we should go our seperate ways". This is all after saying a couple weeks before "I love you and im sorry about things ive done before and your the only girl I ever want to be with".I was totally confused and didnt know where his head was at.Was all that a lie? Did he really love me? I didnt understand and still dont understand.Its been 2 years since we hae been legit broken up and I still try to figure out why he did it randomly.Probably because of the fight.A few months back he seen me and my current boyfriend driving somewhere and he sped off as soon as he seen us. I saw him not to long after we broke up at the bank and he also sped off out of the bank parking lot when I was with my friend.Can someone just help me try to figure out what's going on here? I dwell on it so much becasue I just want to know what he's thinking.I always hope one day he'll realize what he did.I did go to a psychic and she said he feels guilty over some things so I dwell on that also.Helpppp!
ReplyDeleteI am a leo woman who fell madly and desperately in love with an aquarius guy. He was about 13 years younger than me, and so I was very hesitant at first.. but he was SO charming and SO addicting and SO reassuring.. that I finally gave in. He was the sweetest, kindest most loving person I had ever met. We were magic when we were together. BUT, he was everything I knew I didn't want. He was young, jobless, smoked, didn't have any motivation, our religious views were different. So I talked to him about this. I told him the things that I expected and wanted in my life. WE had a small argument... but we couldn't be apart, so things got pushed under the rug and not talked about. We were best friends, best lovers and I thought things were perfect. He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me. He told me he had never been in love before until then. He also told me that I made him so very happy... Our lives got busy and so we didn't see each other for about 2 weeks, when suddenly his texts stopped, he stopped answering the phone.. and then Poof he was gone. He said 3 things to me .. "I love you but I can't be with you all the time, there are other things I need to take care of in my life too.."
ReplyDelete"I love you but out religious views are so different, and you were going to leave me one day anyway so why stay and wait to be hurt."
"I love you and I miss you and it's not your fault"
That was it .. GONE. HIs grandmother told me he had been missing for about a week or so (he lived with her).. he came home briefly and he was with a girl.
He continued to ignore me .. so I finally sent some really nasty and mean emails because I just did not understand what was happening. I was crushed. NO response. I FINALLY drove my butt over to his house yesterday and his grandmother let me in. I went straight into his room as he was sleeping.. and I sat next to him. I kissed him on his head and he looked at me said "What the F are you doing here?" I tried talking to him, getting anything out of him.. but nothing.. He mostly ignored me. He would answer some questions. I asked him what changed.. he wouldn't say. I asked him if it was the religion issues and he said that was alot of it. He also said that he was young and that I needed an older man to take care of me and my kids (I have children) .. then I asked him about the girl.. he wouldn't answer. He kept telling me to leave. He wouldn't look me in the eyes. I knew if I looked him in the eyes I would be able to feel something.. anything whether good or bad but he wouldn't look me in the eyes.. FInally I said 'Does she make you happy? His response "Noone makes me happy.." and then I asked "Are you still with her, be honest and I will leave.." His answer "Yes" so.. I got up to leave.. I felt like I couldnt compete. As I turned around to him I said "I am blocking your number I don't want you to ever contact me again.." I noticed his breathing under the covers got heavy.. but he let me walk out the door. I am broken hearted, and completely broken spirited. I have never hurt like this before.. and yet the closure has brought me some sort of peace. But this man, is someone I will never forget. :(
It turns out, he's not even with a girl.. He just left me to leave me. :( How sad.
DeleteWow.. These stories are really helping me out with my aquarius guy. I am an Aries in my late 20s and he is in his late 40s and we have been knowing of each other for 5 yrs before we started talking.. At 1st I thought he was a jerk and would not take his calls and then after a while I started to talking to him and fell in love so fast.. we were both going thru a divorce and we both have kids both partners left us for other ppl so we had a lot in common.. so the 1st year of dating everying thing was great but then he would take long breaks from me start fighting with me and blaming everything on my believing his own lies and then would turn around and start being that loving man I once knew. It has been 3yrs now I dont know if I want to just end it with him because I am so tired of the fights and him going 2 weeks not talking to me sometimes and not knowing what he wants.. But when I dont speak to him I go crazy because I feel like he is my best friend and he is the man that I would marry but just dont know what to do.. Help me..
ReplyDeleteWalk away. As much as it hurts, you WILL recover and you WILL find someone else. Walk away.
DeleteThese stories are eerily familiar to my experience although in my case, the Aquarian and I are still only friends. Part of it has to do with my indecisiveness to be with this guy or not because of EXACTLY the things that he tends to do ... fun, fun, fun together ... then a few texts ... then disappear ... then he's back while I thought the guy was dead. The cycle repeats, and I'm getting many mixed signals. I'm glad I read these stories while I'm still not emotionally invested in this guy. If this is what I go through as friends ... I can't imagine what kind of mental madness will go down as a couple.
ReplyDelete...and I FINALLY have my answer. He left me because he thought I deserved better. He spoke to me through song lyrics. He said he left for the sake of me. NO, he still won't talk to me, or be my friend and I have seen him once and his eyes said all I needed to hear. He still loves me, I KNOW he does, but for whatever reason in his head, he can't be with me. I should feel loved that someone thinks they are doing the best thing for ME, but I can't help but feel heartbroken still. He was my heart and soul.
ReplyDeleteMy aqua and I, gemini woman, met almost 30 years ago. We were best friends, soul mates for 8 years. We shared a lot and our relationship was ambiguous and none of our friends believed that it was just a simple friendship. We never discussed 'us', didn't even kiss but he always said the most beautiful things to me and I was to frighten to express anything back...He got married but not for love and the day of his wedding I found out that he only talked about me. Then, when I got married, he stopped contacting me. He contacted me 5 five years ago after 10 years of silence. I opened my heart and told him that he is the one I have always loved and will love. In his own very aqua way - undirectly with lots of hints, not even realising it completely he did the same. We met 8 times and only kissed. He has been showing his fragile, sensitive, possessive him for the first time but we are both not free at the moment because of our families and he is scared of us becoming lovers because our relationship is so strong. I am totally ready for it. So, the last time we saw each other, his arguments were all over the place pushing me away and not. I miss him everyday and find it so hard to see him without being able to sleep with him. We never talk about when to meet next...I don't want to loose him again and I don't know how to solve it...
ReplyDeleteSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO DEPRESSED AND I CAN HARDLY BREATHE AT NIGHT
ReplyDeleteI NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP ESPECIALLY FROM THOSE WHO R AQUA MEN EXPERIENCED
I CANT GO ON LIVING WHEN HES TREATING ME LIKE CRAP
Ive been committed to my aqua guy for 5 years and now im 20 so i knew him in such a young age. we wer goin to get married. Hes 24 now.
He never stopped saying i love u and i miss u. He starting a year ago becoming more distant and that got me angry. He became more busy with his business and friends. he started sharing less info with me. being less exciting. being less interesting. growing more boring and more annoying. Even though i told him i need our good times to come bk again he would say im sorry i will b like b4 again. even tho he was annoying but he never rejected me and he always tried to make it up to me. He was annoying but at da same time nice.
THEN SUDDENLY WITHIN A NIGHT HE SAYS WE NEED TO SPLIT UP.Thats right after i yelled at him when he was all day absent for a silly reason like i was driving my friends to the park. if it was for somthn inportant like business i would have excused him but this?? COME ON!
THEN HE SAYS I DONT LOVE ANYONE ELSE BUT IM FED UP FROM THIS LOVE THING AND IM GOING TO KEEP HURTING U PLUS I NEED SPACE AND I HAVE GOALS TO REACH THAT ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANYTHING NOW. HE SAID HE WILL DELETE ALL MY PICS AND MESSAGES
It hurtsssss...It feels like im dead. I loved him and i stll do. Not sure if she still loves me. he doesnt talk anymore. he says he doesnt care.
But recently i contacted him i told him im deleting ur pics too if u need copies of them just tell me. He said yeah i lost them send me copies. Then after that i told him we need to talk and discuss some things. He got mad and said i dont wana talk and i dont want anything from u i dont want a relationship im not marriage material.
i said y do u hate me and y do u disrespect me now. cuz he talks in a rude way. he says i respect u but i just dnt wana b with u. then i said something and he says i dont take ur talk seriously..WAT DA HELL???
He stopped replying.
ITS KILLING ME...Ofcourse i got angry and i told him i dont accept this disrespectful way of speaking. and i told him grow up nd behave. After that i kept going on and on about " YOU SHUD GIMME A CHANCE TO TALK TO U"
Still no replies from him.
I hate myself..how can i get over this? i dont think ill b able to b with any other man for a very long time. Hes my first and i wanted him to b my last. I just dont know wut to do?
@TAURUS GIRL,
DeleteYou really need to get a grip. Only water signs might find your possessive and emotional behavior attractive but it will be a total turn off to fire signs and beyond the comprehension of Aquarius men.
The best thing to do (and if you really love him it should be easy) is to ignore him and get on with your life. Learn to love yourself and find projects to work on for the good of others - stop being so self obsessed. You do this and you'll start to love life and realise its worth. You'll be happy without your Aquarius man. Strange thing is, when you're feeling good about yourself and making a difference to the world of others just by living, that your Aquarius man will want to come back... I hope you're over him enough by then to tell him where to go.
@Katarina zodi,
ReplyDeleteI wasn't that possessive i used 2 give him his own space. like when hes driving i tell him not to text me. and when hes with his mates i never message him. if hes going out i avoid askin him wer u goin? I kinda understood that he wants his freedom and so i was tryin my best to give it to him. Just i got upset about the part that he sometimes seems like he favors his mates over me.
Last night
i told him we need to discuss a few things and maintain respect between us even if wer not goin to end up 2gther again.
He says i dont want to discuss anythin with u. wer done! den he doesnt reply ofc after being so rude to me.
I felt so offended and i kept goin on nd on about hw he shud always respect me no matter wut.
He then says i still respect u but i dont want anythin frm u.
( i personally dont understand hw he wud say i still respect u and still talk to me in a rude way)
Anyways I had a VERY SMART idea...i decided maybe he shud tell me wut shud i do or hw shud i treat him
So i asked him how do u want me to treat u frm nw and on? shud i 4get u completely? shud i never message u again?
He replies sayin
U can jus stay on my chatt list (Blackberry messenger) and we can talk from time to time. Or if u dnt wana talk then up to u
So i replied sayin
Well if i stayed on ur list i kno 4 sure u will never tlk and ill b the one eventually messagin u. Im so sick n tired of this silly game ur playin wer i keep tryna make things better and u keep treatin me like a threat 2 ur life plus disrespecting me. I can not accept this and the way u changed ur personality doesnt suite me anymore. The cold person whos just interested in business and money doesnt suite me anymore..Ur just not good enaff and there's nothin u can do to suite me..so i cant keep a boring lame person on my list im so deleting u.
After that i deleted him
Now i want everyone's opinion about wether wut i did was correct or not?
I have another plan ill b re-adding him later after a couple months maybe wen i feel much stronger. Just so he can have access to c my pics and status updates and thru that he'll c how much im happy without him and how exciting my life is without him..nd dat i can travel and make new frndz..nd dat i can go on living happily without him
What do u think?
Try not being so possessive and forceful. Aqua men don't like that, its a complete turn off. I think you should definitely focus on other things such as, career and family. Always stay busy and productive and DON'T EVER LET THIS MAN OR ANY OTHER DISRESPECT YOU.........You're young, believe me, you will have the opportunity to meet PLENTY of other attractive men...Don't chase him, let him go. Also, Aqua men like to be the hunter as opposed to being hunted....I hope this helps
DeleteRegards,
A Virgo
AMAZING!!!! EVERY SINGLE LETTER IN HERE IS PERFECT.i am Aries woman in lv with Aquarius man.i love him like hell.he is everything to me.he loves me that way too.but he always doubts me.but i cannot leave his hand at any point in my life.how to change him? it hurts me badly when doubts me. Aquarius man always want their girl friends to praise them.they wana look great in the eyes of his girl friend.
ReplyDeletePlease help. Here is my story! I have been dating my aquarius man for over 5 years now. We've been married for almost two. We have been through so much together more than what most couples could handle. We have both done hurtful things to eachother but still stayed together. At first he was clingy and controlling. One day he asked why I never showed that I loved him. I felt the pain in his voice told him how I truly felt after years of hiding it. Ever since then he has used it against me and things started to go down hill. I use to break it off with him a lot but for the first time he broke it off with me 4 months ago & after awhile I started ignoring him. He came back around and thought that we could go to counseling and make it work. Since then he has made friends with this guy who is so miserable in his life that he doesn't want to see him happy. You know how those aquarius men are and their friends. So towards the end I stopped trying to change him or have him cut this friend out. I was actually okay with everything little thing that he did even if it bothered me. The day before we broke up we went for a walk and talked everything seemed good he was smiling and everything. Then the next day he went to work. He called me to say he was off but gave me attitude when saying this as if he where trying to pick a fight on purpose. I hung up on him and he then said I've been thinking all day I want to get a divorce. I know aquarius men hate crying and all that and this was before I had done my research on them. I did that that day and then since then I have not tried to contact him. Instead I've been ignoring him but now for the past few days he has not tried to contact me he has a new phone number and told his family he doesn't want me to have it. Which I really don't want anyways because I don't contact him on the other number he has. We have broken up before both tried to move on back come back to eachother. It seems we are doing it again this time. I want to move on but something in my heart makes me not want to. I guess I'm feeling confused. I have read a lot about his sign since the breakup that are dead on. I now know the things that push him away and I will just have to deal with if we get back together. My question is do you think he will come back? He also told me that if I didn't do this and that to change that this would happen again to where we broke up.
ReplyDelete-Signed lost and confused...
Hello everyone!!! I wrote in here on 5 January 2012.. Thank you so much for the answer!!! Back then I was way too in love with him to see him clearly. Now my feelings aren´t the same... but I still want him so bad!! He´s been showing up on and off for three years now. He always does the same: he writes to me and talks to me, we laugh and then the flirting stars... right away.. and he´s very explicit. At first when I was with my boyfriend (and he knew that) I got very offended and endep the conversation with him inmediately...I felt that he didn´t have any respect for me or even cared for my happiness... he just wanted sex. He never stopped even when I got really angry. He said he couldn´t help it. I eventually broke up with my boyfriend and when he knew that (facebook) he started chasing me again. This time I didn´t have the feelings I had for him anymore... but I kinda liked him. I told him that I wanted to see him but he told me he couldn´t... he never told me why, just that he couldn´t because he had a problem. I was angry but a month after that I saw him and he inmediately wanted to talk to me and see me. We went out at first just for talking but a few dates later we ended up in bed... We had fun but we didn´t clicked... we didn´t had much of a conversation really or at least that´s what I felt.. although he tried to talk to me and he told me things about him... and he even invited me to his house which he never did before...
ReplyDeleteOn the last date I didn´t kiss him goodbye and he seemed turned off by that. Then the days passed and it didn´t knew about him. I try to write to him once but he told me he was bussy. I found out he was chasing another girl by that time... and my ego was hurt. I wanted revenge so I tried to meet him in a casual way with my sexiest outfit. I did and it worked. He was crazy for me again and he called me at night the same day after many text messages where he told me how sexy I was and all... We endep up having phone sex.... It was amazing. The next day he called me to asked my out but I made up some excuse... I didn´t wanted to see him. I´m angry at him... he just wants me when he wants and it´s not fair...but i don´t know what to do... I´m so attracted to him!! He just drives me crazy!! Is the strongest attraction I´ve ever felt in my life. Why does he behaves like that with me?? why is it always when he wants?? he tries to act like a friend sometimes and sometimes we talk (even of other women) but he always ends up with a sexual thing... I don´t get it!!
I wish I would have read more about aquarius man before datting one !
ReplyDeleteI am a leo woman and the last aquarius man i met we became friends and stayed friends for years with sex then I broke it off. This new aqua man swept me off my feet in one week of knowing him. He would flatter me with compliments left right and center so I ended up sleeping with him we did this a couple times a week for 6 weeks.He said he loved my soul cause i gave him no pressure.Then the next time we got together we were having wine and i got a little drunk and stupid me starts telling him i have a big heart (a true leo )well guess what i wished i could take those words back but its too late cause i know how to deal with aquarius men and give them the challenge but i fucked up cause of the booze (i hardly drink )now i havent seen him in two weeks since i blabbed that mushy crap so doesn't look like ill have a new special friend but ill be on my toes for the next aquarius men i meet cause i seriously love aqauarius men they have taught me to not be so emotional in life.
awwwww. hi hun. sorry to hear that. i think u should forget it hun. u cant go around on tip toe. im sure ur a nice person in ur own right. im an aquarian and i dont understand him. i would love to find someone as understanding as u that would be enough for me as it would show me u care. and its a sign of ur love for him. i would love for someone to be that way with me. i hope u find what ur looking for in life hun. and wish all that u wish for ur self. andy xx
DeletePlease somebody help me!
ReplyDeleteI really don´t know what to do right now, I feel so hurt...
I´ve known an aquarius guy for years and I´ve been in love with him for so long.... I listened to him when he was sad, forgave him all the times he was an jerk with me..... and though he said he was interested in me and that he cared for me.... he always behaved distant, cold and disrespectful to me (he only cared about my body.. not my soul). He made the dissaperaring act to me many times and came back many times too. I thought he never cared about me.. I gave him all my love... I´m really heartbroken right now....
The last time I saw him we fought because he acted so careless with me (I travelled to the other side of the city just to see him and after we hookep up he just told me that I had to go back home alone)and I got really angry and walk down on him and went away.
He apologized but only through text messages (and in a lame way).... I don´t think that is the best way to apologize.... I think I deserve better.
Please tell what should I do about this.... I´m trying so hard to forget about him and let him go but I´m not sure what else I can do.
Been there done that; bought the whole neighborhood of shops. I know Aquarius men like the back of my hand. I have attracted them all my life. I'm an Aries woman and Aquarius men have almost been a constant in my life. I know it's my fire sign but my moon is also in Libra (another air sign like his and very compatible) that is some of the attraction, but what attracts me the most is their cunning, charm, intelligence and creativity.
DeleteThey are the flirts of the zodiac sign. They are witty, cunning, smooth and know just what to say. That's one thing that draws women to them... THEIR CHARM and SMOOTH TALKING. It sounds like your Aquarius is not wanting to settle down. And that cool detachment they are famous for is only on the outside. Inside they are a blazing emotional inferno. I KNOW!!! Don't be fooled by the cool outside armor. Aquarian men need to feel in control. That's one thing that makes them come across as cold and detached. And they live in there head A LOT!
Aquarian men don't fall in love easily, but when they do it's VERY intense. I kid you not! They become obsessed with it to the point they stalk you. If your Aquarian man is disappearing like that then he's not ready to commit. The best thing to do is wait for him if you really want him. He will come to you. They are famous for coming back around after they disappear. It's because they let their head lead them somewhere and then realize they are emotionally lacking something.. that's when you got him. Be PATIENT!!!! let him call the shots (go out and have fun! Don't wait around and let him know it) and he will come around when he's ready.
Aquarius is the hardest sign in the zodiac to commit. They are big freedom lovers.
Thank you so much for the advice!! This is a great website and I´m so glad I found it!!
DeleteIt´s been really hard to deal with this aquarius guy... and I swear a I was so in love with him!! I gave him all my heart and YES I always gave him time and space to come back. I never dreamed he could be such a liar. It turns out that by the time I last saw him he was seeing another girl and after we fought he dissapeared... and surprise! They became a couple!! What was I?? a sort of "back up" girl? a plan b?? Honestly, I don´t care. I feel like a wasted 2 and a half years on this guy and I gave him all my understanding and love and for what??. I just found out all of this two days ago. Today he had the nerve to e-mail me. This is it for me. What a jerk... I never thought he could play with me in such a selfish way. Now he wants me to believe he still cares about me and that he´s really sorry for our fight! ugh... I will never trust him again in my life!!
Ladies!! seriously... do not invest everything on someone who doesn´t have the guts to tell things clearly. If someone doesn´t do the effort to stay with you or he just does the minimal effort... he´s not worth it!!
I have a lot of experience with Aquarian men. In fact, they have come in my life more often as lovers than any other zodiac sign. I have also done many zodiac charts since the 1980's; not so much anymore because now you can get them done on the internet. So let me share some of my life's experience with you on Aquarian men:
ReplyDeleteAquarius men with an earth sign moon (Capricorn, Taurus or Virgo)
These Aquarian men tend to be more grounded than the other types of Aquarians. They have the Aquarian love for flirtation, however they are less likely to cheat. They are less likely to do the famous "Aquarian disappearing act" as well. It's my opinion that this is the best kind of Aquarian male lover/husband to have. He's usually more responsible too and less likely to blame you for things in the relationship (all of it anyway).
Aquarius men with a fire sign moon (Aries, Leo and Sagittarius)
These Aquarian men are the hot heads! They have a temper that flares pretty easily; yet they are the most passionate. So depending if you can handle their flares of temper here and there for the sake of their passionate nature, well, it's up to you. I guess what it comes down to is, can you handle the heat? These type of Aquarian men are my second favorite.
Aquarius men with an air sign moon (Aquarius, Gemini and Libra)
These type of Aquarian men are the strong intellectuals; even for Aquarius which is intellectual to begin with. These guys definitely live in their minds to the max. People in the sign of Aquarius live in their mind anyway, but these type of Aquarian men do it even more so. And they are the ones that appear the most emotionally detached. This type of Aquarians are geeks, nerds and strong teachers. It takes years for this type of Aquarian man to "get his emotions in sinc".
Aquarius men with a water sign moon (Pisces, Cancer and Scorpio)
Talk about the over emotional ones! Good lord, they are sensitive to the max. Well, as far as emotionally sensitive that an Aquarian male can get, that is. These type of Aquarian men are prone to drink a lot. They can easily become addicted to the wrong thing. They also get paranoid easily and have neurotic episodes. These Aquarian men are my least favorite type. They drive me insane. LOL
Gotta love my Aquarius men though. They are by far my favorite zodiac sign. I know my soul mate will be an Aquarius for sure.
Great post!! Can you tell us more about aquarius men with an air sign moon?? Specially with aquarius sign moon?? they seem to be the hardest to understand and I´m fact I know a couple of them and they really confuse me..!!
DeleteHi, I am the one that wrote the above post you replied to. Let me try to answer your question. So, your Aquarian man has double whammy air (Sun and Moon sign) as well as double whammy Aquarius? Yeah, he's probably really confusing you.
DeleteOk, so I will relay to you my experience with this type of Aquarius man (Aquarius sun sign and Aquarius (air) moon). Please keep in mind I am speaking from my own experience so take from it what you feel in your gut pertains to your guy (or the one you are talking about). Keep in mind you can't put every single Aquarius man with an air sign moon in one category because everyone matures and learns from their own experience, however, take from this post what you feel is spot on.
This type of Aquarian man is the most detached. They crave intellectual conversation more so than the other type of Aquarians, because intellect is their realm. They have a more difficult time understanding and analyzing their emotions because it's just the way they are wired. As they get older and experience more emotional relationships, they get better at it.
If you go into this thing expecting him to instinctively know what you need emotionally, you are most likely to end up disappointed. Not because he means to do it, it's because he's not instinctively in sync with his own emotions. He can get better at this it just takes time and patience. Since he already has a difficult time understanding his own emotions, it makes sense that he can't analyze or anticipate your own, right?
Aquarian men with an air sign moon is the ultimate THINKER. And therein lies the key word.. THINKER. Anything that comes at him he will analyze in his mind first BEFORE he tries to analyze how he feels about it. He's a big philosopher and can talk to you extensively about world issues, evolution, science and anything on that level, but ask him to go deeply into how he feels emotionally and everything stops.
They get absorbed in philosophy and intellectual issues easily. One week they are talking about one thing, the next their mind has latched onto something else. They get wrapped up in things in their mind. If they didn't need some kind of affection, they would live their whole life in their own mind. Intelligent conversations are what hooks them. If you are intelligent yourself you will roll with him in a harmonious way. If you are more the type that lives on your emotions he will get bored quick and move on or run because it will scare the dickens out of him. That's the part of them people have a hard time dealing with because they feel it's detachment when really it's because they connect first with their mind and their emotions with anyone comes later.
Ok, so after all that rambling, how do you deal with this type of Aquarian man? You have to communicate with him intellectually. You can't be overly emotional or he can't connect. I'm not saying that you shouldn't show him affection, just don't harp on constantly asking him to sate your emotional side. You have to be independent within yourself and not a needy person. Because that will put him off pronto. He can't connect to you so he moves on. Learn to communicate with him intellectually with putting your needs across that way. You can do it, just learn to roll with him instead of trying to push your emotions off on him. I am not saying that, that is what you are doing, I am just putting that across generally.
Aquarius is a freedom loving sign anyway so put that with an Aquarian man with an air sign moon and well, you have a person that needs space here and there. It's not something to take person, it's something to learn to accept. If you can deal with that side of him, you will have something really special.
So, in conclusion, learn to roll with his thinking/intellectual side. Be patient and give him room to experience his own emotions and he learns how to put them across clearly. It's just the way they roll.
Best of luck.
Thanks this was very helpful for me =) I´ve been dealing with a double aquarius that drives me crazy! and yes... he lives in his head a lot and feels unconfortable expressing his feelings...
DeleteI still don´t know what to do with him.... he can be very cold (and me too- capricorn-) but he likes women to be affectionate with him....
I simply don´t know how to act around him... it´s like he can´t stand sweet things and intimacy but still wants me to be all corny whenever he wants.... well he´s a total contradiction but I guess contradiction was a word invented by an aquarius guy! hahaha.
ANYWAY thank you very much for helping me with this puzzle.
Glad I could help a bit. It sounds like he wants the intimacy from you for his ego. That's not always a bad thing, it means subconsciously he's trying to learn about it but yet wants to keep himself under control at the same time. My advice about that is just be yourself with him. When you want to be affectionate then be so. When you don't feel like it then don't. If he wants to know why just tell him you just simply didn't feel like it. This isn't all about him, you know? You have to be who and what you want to be as well. He's got a good bit to learn about women sounds like. I would just be myself and if he cares he will learn and catch on. Be happy in yourself first. If he wants you, he will do what he can to conform to your needs as well as his.
DeleteI know what I should do with this Aquarius man that I have fallen so madly in love with but my heart just want let go. I have been dating this 51 year Aquarius man who's never been married. I am a Sag. gal who has been married a couple of times. When we first met the chemistry was great. He told me that he had waited 51 one years to find someone like me and that he would never hurt me. I have never had so much in common with anyone in all my life and the times we spent together were the past ever. I then started noticing a distance he was putting between us. I thought we both understand each other with a commitment. He said he never saw hisself getting married and myself didn't want to go down that road again, but the times we're just great and I could see myself with him for a very long time. But his distance has broke my heart and I know that he has moved on and started seeing other, but he still seems to want to keep in touch with me in his own way. I know I deserve so much better than the way he has been treating me, but I just keep holding on to the memories and the good times that we had and just hope that he will remember how good we were together and come back, but I know that I am just wishful thinking, because if he truly cared for me he wouldn't be treating me like a totally stranger. I want him to miss me, but hopefully one day soon I will let go of this ackying in my heart and just let go of this Aquarius man. So ladys beware of this sign because they will play with your emotions and I have learned to stay clear of the Aquarius sign.
ReplyDeleteHELP!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteCan anyone tell me how can you tell if an aquarius man comes back because he really likes you or just because he wants to play?? My aquarius guy used to tell me that he loved me and that he missed me and all... he chased me for months (even when I was with another guy and I didn´t give him the time of day)... and we we were together he just went silent and distant... and he just cared for sex, he didn´t listened to me...
A month ago we had a fight and a few weeks later he started dating another girl... wtf! Was everthing he said a lie?? Now I see how they speak to each other on facebook... and it´s all very corny. To be honest I´m kinda hurt an jelaous at the same time.
Now i´m trying to get over him because our relathionship wasn´t good but I keep asking myself what was that all about?? What was I to him??
Ps: I am capricorn with virgo rising and he´s dating a leo now...
I've been dating an Aquarius man for 3 months now and I'm a cancer woman. I know we're not the most compatible of signs but I'm really attracted to him and he seems to have genuine interest in me. Maybe this is a cancer thing but sometimes I feel emotionally alone in the relationship. I feel like we don't have a deep connection because he doesn't like talking about feelings and so on. Should I move onto a man who has similar emotional expectations or should i stick it out with this guy? I never felt emotionally "deprived" when I was with a Taurus or a Gemini man. My Aquarius man even said he'd be ok with me having an emotional affair with another man as long as I don't sleep with him or any other man. What's that supposed to mean?
ReplyDeleteHi CancerGirl, don't take this the wrong way but by the sounds of your post it's possible you are coming across too emotionally strong for him. You have two ways to deal with this situation. You can learn to tone down your heavy emotions and learn to deal with him on an intellectual level first, giving him time to connect to the emotional side of your relationship OR you can make the decision to move on to another sign that's more in touch with their emotional side as strongly as you are. It depends on your own needs and his.
DeleteHe's telling you that you can have an emotional affair with other men just not physical because he's recognizing that you have strong emotional needs. I am not saying that, that is necessarily bad, it just means that it appears to him it's a very deep need for you. He's trying to be fair to you about your needs. That's good for him that he recognizes that. It's my guess that he's not trying to get rid of you, he's trying to make you happy and recognize your needs, not pawn you off on other men.
Ok, so what do I suggest doing if you want to continue with him? To be able to move forward with him you will have to learn to temper your emotional side.. I don't mean kill it, I mean tone it down a little. I know that will be a little difficult since you are a water sign, especially one that is a lover of home and family (cancer). And I can imagine you want a commitment. And you could have that with your Aquarian man, just slow down a bit. It sounds like it's overwhelming him a little. If you slow it down, temper your strong emotions, you will have him in time and you will see that he will be able to meet that emotional part of you when he's ready. Right now he's looking at it all through his mind first. His emotions will grow and he will eventually express them but probably not in the biggest romantic way.
If you need a lot of romance and you need someone to express their love to you every day or very frequently, you most probably can't relate to an Aquarian man. They just aren't geared that way. It doesn't mean you are wrong or have a problem, it just means you are both too different. I think Cancer people are wonderful, but they are more geared to relationships than intellectual things. It's just the way you guys are.
Maybe it´s just novelty from his side but every once in a while my aquarius ex boyfrieand reappears in my life... it can be in a casual way or with a serious phone call conversation about life and feelings (his feelings, fears and pains etc). When we are together he sometimes is very distant and serious....and sometimes we flirt or just laugh. I don´t get him at all. I can´t tell what does he want from me.... do you think he has feelings for me?. The last time this happened was a week ago.... he has a girlfriend by the way... and he was friendly and sweet to me... I even percieve certain interest from him. He never shows his emotions easily so it´s really hard for me to understand him. I need help!
ReplyDeleteIn all honesty, I wouldn't put too much into it at this point. Why? because it sounds like he's remembering that you were cool and fun to be around and right now he is needing that. It could be he's a little bored with his girlfriend right now and is looking for outside entertainment. I'm not saying he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you, but most probably he's looking for a distraction. So why not have a distraction with someone he knows is fun from his past? That's what he's probably thinking anyway.
DeleteAquarians are talkers. They LOVE conversation. So sure he is enjoying your conversations. Something reminded him of you so he reached out to see how you are doing, got wrapped up in it in his mind (Aquarians are famous for doing that). It could even be that he and his girl aren't getting on now and he remembered that you weren't anything like her and so he's testing the waters.
You could either ask him right out what he wants from you (in a very friendly conversational way, of course) or you can just put it firmly in your mind not to let your heart get carried away with his attention and just look at it that he's needing a friend. It could be that he simply needs someone to talk to right now and not even he knows that's only what he's looking for. I don't know how you want to deal with it but that's pretty much the choices I see here.
I would be a friend right now in any case. Aquarians are more apt to fall for someone if they are a friend FIRST.. then the trust grows and then their feelings become apparent to them. It's nuts and annoying, I know, but it's how they are.
Thank you so much I think you were absolutely right about this. I didn´t do anything and just played it cool with him and I realized by his actions that yeah... he was angry/bored with his girlfriend or... he´s just an total jerk. He was trying to flirt with me one day, telling me that I should call him and write something sweet to him on facebook (???)... and the next day he was calling me friend.... SO I decided to let him go once and for all. I feel sorry for his girlfriend... he never mentioned her, I had to do it!! and then he just told me: "don´t talk to me about her right now....".. sooo uncool. He never talks about her and he keeps writing to me and all... I don´t want to be part of that kind of behavior so I back off.
ReplyDeleteGood for you. I'm glad you did that. Like I said, he was bored with his girlfriend. That's his problem and not yours. It sounds like he's wanting to make her jealous because he's asking you to post on his facebook. You're smart not to get wrapped up in that. That's no excuse to use someone like that. Take heart though.. not all Aquarius men are like that. He's just an immature one.
DeleteI know that!! All aquarius men are not the same... he is just a bad man.... and I`m happy to walk away from ths situatuion.
DeleteThis is all very interesting...Im a Tuarus woman and had/have casual thing with an Aqua man, when we met I was trying to get over someone...he seemed a bit too needy for my liking, so I was the one doing the disappearing act.
ReplyDeleteThe sex was out of this world and all it took was a phone call or text from me and he would drop everything and rush over
Seems to me that when an Aqua man is in to you, you know it...we're still not together in the traditional sense, but he's always there when I need him, for whatever...just made contact with him after a year of not seeing him(my choice, not his)and he's willing to be with me in anyway than none at all...My point is if he's into you, he really is into you
I wish I could do the very same thing.... but it´s like a one way street with him. Maybe someday.
ReplyDeleteive been reading these posts, and i have recently started seeing this aquarian guy,im a gemini. the distance thing is true. I just broke up with my boyfriend that was a liar and lazy with no change after a yr. i meet this aquarian guy he gives me his numb. he tells me he has a girl but we can be friends. very attactive,i hesitated with taking his number. it was uplifting that a younger sexy man found me attractive. after a few days i called him,he told me hes in a open relationship,and she doesnt mind. I didnt want to be disrespectful and stated so. charming and persistent had my panties dwn. omg! was i glad i broke it off with my ex! when we have sex its like he knws what i want without me telling him. we talk here an there,if he doesnt kp his word, when he calls ill ignore him. hell come bck around. everytime we have sex it gets better and better. its like he doesnt even have a girl at all. he looks at me like he wants somethin from me,but doesnt say exactly whats on his mind. he asks me am i ok put gas in the tank massage me. its been about a month. he wants his space fine, i need it to so i can focus. i feel and i knw its potential for other things but im not stressin. he makes me feel like a woman and he shows me respect. its been about a month. wtf is goin on here. he holds me kisses me like were already together. can somebody help. i cant stop thinkin about him, nor can i stay off his cock. evenually im goin to say something about the girl issue but i dont want another relationship to go sour. it seems like im always the dude in relationships,but not with him. i feel refreshed, i can breath. hell say certain things that i knw he doent mean to kp me at a distance, but is steadily on my phone asking when, what , an where, and whos p22sy this. he knws im just having sex with him. i want to be able to have sex with somebody maybe evenually,but everytime i think about it i feel guilty, and were not together and he has a girl! somebody enlighten me please! sometimes its different reading about things than actually going through it. I want him rite now but im not callin him! this is ridiculous!
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, just take it for what it is.. a friends with benefits. Don't expect anything else from him. Have fun with him. He's not going to commit and it seems neither are you. Sure, call him. Go ahead. Get it all out of your system. It won't be long before you realize it was all just for fun anyway.
Deletehonestly....the aqua guy is the biggest jerk you'd ever find...more woman, than man.. kind, sympathetic, graceful, adorable and totally unpredictable!...like women havin pmses.. they behave like idiots and we have to just put with such nonsense. I met a guy, feel in love with him head over heels...and damn, whoosh..he disappeared..!..he met me the other day, made me feel like a princess and he just left leavin no clue to where or why he is behaving that way. Then I realize, he managed to create a fake profile, check how my stability and integrity, dedicate the coolest tracks with mesmerizing lyrics to me...and forever wanting to know where I am or what I am upto...well, I came to know it was him(that's an other story in itself, he is stupid)...just that...he runs away when he thinks you deserve someone better. He cannot love someone who he thinks is better than him.
ReplyDeleteAquarian men are like that. They can do the "disappearing act" quiet brilliantly. It's their specialty. To get an Aquarian man, you have to be mysterious, play hard to get and know what the heck you are talking about (intellect), because they love intelligent conversations. To keep an Aquarian man, you have to give him freedom and space, no nagging, no jealousy and he will stay with you without you even trying. They are one of the most difficult signs in the zodiac to get to commit. It's just the way they roll
DeleteHi! I'm sooo sorry to hear about your experience. Although I cant say I share in the experience exactly...through my own heartbreaks I have learned a few things that I think can be applied to just about every relationship. At least this is how I am now trying to approach all my matters of the heart.
ReplyDelete1) learn to truly love yourself. That means you are your own advocate. You will decide how people will treat you. Establish boundaries so that they know what will and wont be acceptable. AND STICK TO THEM!
2) Where there is a will there is a way. When we love someone we seem to want to find reasons/excuses as to why a certain behavior is something we can "deal with". That means you are willing to take less than you really want (which breaks #1). When someone is TRULY interested they will find a way.
3) the breaking up and making up becomes a pattern they learn. And often take advantage. Do you really want to play this game? Once the 1st problem occurs...you explain what your boundary will be. It then becomes their choice whether or not they can step up. That way they can never say you forced/manipulated them. If you decide to give it another go and it happens again. You MUST follow through with the consequences of them over stepping that boundary. DO NOT LOOK BACK.
It will be hard. It takes practice. But I promise, if you do it. It does become easier. You become so used to loving yourself and making yourself #1 that you will no longer tolerate any 2nd class treatment. And almost magically, life will start to provide opportunities for you to meet men that ARE willing to step up.
4) If you find yourself having the same experiences with different men, you must stop and realize that only you are the common denominator. So ask yourself what is it in you that is contributing to this heartbreak. Once you figure that out, learn to free yourself of this behavior your love life WILL improve drastically.
So, I guess you can imagine what my opinion is on him. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! But dont give in. Instead explore yourself and see what it is in you that put you into this situation. The way he behaved is utterly unacceptable. Actions do speak louder than words. Dont let yourself be sweet talked into a relationship that doesnt exist in reality...where you live.
I hope this can help in someway. I hope you read it...and know that if you want to talk more...Id be happy to. Im not a pro, but I have learned a lot after a 6 year relationship (with a Virgo), and after a 2 year break am just now back on the dating scene. Im dating an AQUA man haha!. So far, this is what has worked for me. The boundary thing is big. And you know what...in the end, even if I know he is in love with me. If he isnt able for any reason (by choice or because there is something in him he still needs to heal) doesnt meet my needs. I have to take care of myself. I must make sure that I am being treated how I wanted and move on.
Much love to u!
Hi! I'm sooo sorry to hear about your experience. Although I cant say I share in the experience exactly...through my own heartbreaks I have learned a few things that I think can be applied to just about every relationship. At least this is how I am now trying to approach all my matters of the heart.
ReplyDelete1) learn to truly love yourself. That means you are your own advocate. You will decide how people will treat you. Establish boundaries so that they know what will and wont be acceptable. AND STICK TO THEM!
2) Where there is a will there is a way. When we love someone we seem to want to find reasons/excuses as to why a certain behavior is something we can "deal with". That means you are willing to take less than you really want (which breaks #1). When someone is TRULY interested they will find a way.
3) the breaking up and making up becomes a pattern they learn. And often take advantage. Do you really want to play this game? Once the 1st problem occurs...you explain what your boundary will be. It then becomes their choice whether or not they can step up. That way they can never say you forced/manipulated them. If you decide to give it another go and it happens again. You MUST follow through with the consequences of them over stepping that boundary. DO NOT LOOK BACK.
It will be hard. It takes practice. But I promise, if you do it. It does become easier. You become so used to loving yourself and making yourself #1 that you will no longer tolerate any 2nd class treatment. And almost magically, life will start to provide opportunities for you to meet men that ARE willing to step up.
4) If you find yourself having the same experiences with different men, you must stop and realize that only you are the common denominator. So ask yourself what is it in you that is contributing to this heartbreak. Once you figure that out, learn to free yourself of this behavior your love life WILL improve drastically.
So, I guess you can imagine what my opinion is on him. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! But dont give in. Instead explore yourself and see what it is in you that put you into this situation. The way he behaved is utterly unacceptable. Actions do speak louder than words. Dont let yourself be sweet talked into a relationship that doesnt exist in reality...where you live.
I hope this can help in someway. I hope you read it...and know that if you want to talk more...Id be happy to. Im not a pro, but I have learned a lot after a 6 year relationship (with a Virgo), and after a 2 year break am just now back on the dating scene. Im dating an AQUA man haha!. So far, this is what has worked for me. The boundary thing is big. And you know what...in the end, even if I know he is in love with me. If he isnt able for any reason (by choice or because there is something in him he still needs to heal) doesnt meet my needs. I have to take care of myself. I must make sure that I am being treated how I wanted and move on.
Much love to u!
Dear Anonymous 22 May 2013 15:16, I am so sorry to hear you lost the baby. I have been through it and it's terrible. I can't think of a more gentle way to say this so I am just going to come out and say it. It's the Aries curse I am afraid. We are blunt like that. Your Aquarian man didn't love you. Or he did a little, but not enough. If he did he would have come to you in your time of need; especially after losing his baby. I can understand not making one meeting or so due to family emergency. But to keep making excuses? There is NO excuse for that. He wanted you, but didn't love you enough. That's why he kept coming around. He wanted you and wanted you to be there when he wanted you, but he didn't love you enough. It's that simple; yet hurtful and complex. I have been there more than once. It's nothing to do with his zodiac sign.. it's because he didn't love you truly. You did the right thing for sure. It would have just kept going on and on that way until he got tired of it and just up and left you without a word. Hopefully you will find someone that deserves you soon. Love yourself and get over him. You will do soon, believe me. Best of luck
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ReplyDeleteI want to thank you both for your help and advice. It is deeply appreciated! This has been the most difficult time in my life. I don't feel I am any where near ready to date again. I am not sure it will be anytime soon that I am going to be ready. He really did a number on me, and I am just sick of men over it.
I did give in and attempt to contact him. He wouldn't answer or anything to my texts or calls. So I sent an email, I got a response stating, "that his way of dealing with things is to immerse himself in work and all the other things that need to be done until he understands everything that happened then deal with it" Stated he was still not ready to discuss anything. Stated that "I will probably call or text you. We do need to talk"
I got this reply on June 12, still not heard one word. But sent him a text telling him not to bother a week ago. I was way to good for him. And whoever she is I hope she gives and treats him just how he treated me at my time of need when you need her. And there will be a day you will regret what you lost!! Cause I am the best you are ever gonna get a chance with!!!
I am done!! He is a POS! And I wish whoever she is in his life now, the best of luck cause she will need it!! He has no respect or decency in him! Even a stranger would have treated me better than he did with what happened to our child! Good riddance of him!!
Another update:
ReplyDeleteOn morning of July 12, exactly 30 days from the email in the other update, he calls and states he has the wrong number and ask for his mother, by her first and last name. What a loser!!! I can't believe he did that, why not delete my number? Cause we are thru!! I won't be treated this way, especially after finding out he is with the exgf that he was suppose to have broke up with before us..he is back living in her house. The nerve of the JERK!!!
Most thanks to the group that made this website AND wrote this post :) Now i know why my Aqua cheated on me. It was unconsciously done because he felt emotionally threatened. We were having distanced relationship, I guess Aqua has that need to control and know where you are all the time. Not satisfying enough, they need you to be always by their side (literally). But after consciously admitting their wrong and beg you to be back in their loves, they've risked it all to expose their true selves, so forgive them and move on. Aquarius men are exceptionally faithful, but you need to keep them interested, while being emotionally independent so you don't always cling on them and bore them. Once you get past that stage of crying and despair, you'll see how much he loves you and treasures you.
ReplyDeleteWhat you said made a lot of sense, I'm a Leo woman dating a Aquarius man...One minute he's all over me sexing me damn good then next he's ignoring me Wth...I'm ready to just end it but we been dating 9 month's and I really like him...
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