A Reader Requested some feedback in this comment:
Hi, I am an aquarius woman and met an aquarius man a number of years ago. I know this sounds like a crazy story. He asked me out twice and I did not respond even though I was madly attracted to him. Just did not feel good enough and feared rejection. After a few months I contacted him coz I just could not get him out of my mind. He responded immediately! To cut a long story short a date was sort of arranged but never materialised. It is 5 years ago now and I still cannot get him out of my mind! I have started reading about the star sign aquarius and perhaps he feared rejection too. Would really appreciate any comments. THanksDear Anonymous,
By not responding to him you will have piqued his interest. If he is as typical an Aquarius as he seems then your rejection of him will have impacted negatively on any relationship after this "affair". Aquarius men do not like too much enthusiasm from their women. They get to thinking that the woman must be desperate for a relationship and this worries them.
It is likely that the date you "sort of arranged" failed down to his feelings. If he was attracted to you, which he must have been to ask you out twice (though such behavior is also typical of an Aquarius when they are not in control - which they tend not to be in the first stages of a relationship but they also tend to deal with if the relationship continues) and then he came to believe that the feeling was mutual this could cause him problems too. Unlike most other star signs Aquarius men worry when the feeling is mutual. Why? Because matters can get out of hand and they cannot have that.
Aquarius and Aquarius can work no matter what other Astrologers say. Just ensure you both have separate interests.
Just to say a big big thank you to the person who posted this advice. It sounds good but I fear rejection tremendously.
ReplyDeleteWould love to know who took the time and trouble to give me this advice. Please reply. Thanks
Is there any way I can get in contact without putting my e.mail address?
Glad you appreciated the advice. It was from one of our resident Astrologers with a particular interest in Aquarius men. Please keep us informed as to how this relationship develops, feedback (even if it goes against our predictions) will improve our insights and in so doing this website.
ReplyDeletePlease can I request one more bit of advice? Last time - I promise!
ReplyDeleteI am really in two minds whether to contact Mr Aquarius after 5 years. It is such a dilemma for me and driving me mad but I feel that he will have moved on with his life and most probably be settled with someone.
For the last few years I have been studying to become a nurse and actually did forget about him until I searched for him on facebook (after I qualified) and viewed just a picture. Well, that just brought it all back. I did not have the courage to click and view his profile in case it indicated if he was with someone. I know I sound silly but I was just so upset about him previously. Actually I am not actually on facebook but could still contact him through that.
Another part of the dilemma is that he has not attempted to contact me in 5 years. I met him while he was doing some construction work in my flat so he knows where I live but we do live in different cities - about 40 miles apart.
Yes. The top and bottom of it all is that I cannot bear rejection. I even think that if he was with someone I would just like to have that conversation with him and just let him know that I was interested in him. I blame myself wholly for this situation and just wished I had not been so stupid and just took the risk. 5 years on and I am still tortured. Perhaps I just need to see him just to get him out of my system!! I do not know.
Do you think because I am an aquarius too that we are both a like?
If I do contact him through facebook, I was planning on just sending a lighthearted message and put my mobile. What do you think?
I would very much appreciate your advice. Won't bother you again. Ha Ha Thank you.
Just a bit of information which I missed out - just thought it could be significant. My birthday is 23 January and his is 25 January. Look forward to your reply. Much appreciated.
ReplyDeleteHi Hope you do not mind but would really appreciate it if you could just give me your opinion. I know I sound a little crazy but even just to agree that perhaps it is not a good idea to contact him after 5 years. Many thanks
ReplyDeleteYou should contact him. What is the worst that can happen? He'll say he is not in the slightest interested and then you can move on. You need closure as this man is sending you mad. Just do it!
ReplyDeleteA big thank you to anonymous on 25 August. I am gonna consider it! I know I sound like a coward but 'once bitten twice shy' Ha ha. Thank you again
ReplyDeletewhy aquarian like to play that way?(distant and aloofness)why they like to confuse someone who cares for them?how to know whether they like or dislikes someone?it just so hurt when someone u really love treat u badly.he said he already with someone else but i noticed he stalking me,keep calling me,asking my help.or he just used me?This is so crazy.i hope that i can forget all that happened to me but he still in my head.damn..and why it is so hard to forget ths guy?i never felt like this b4.i feel so bad..:(-
ReplyDeleteTo anonymous who posted on 1 September 2011.
ReplyDeleteI really feel sorry for you and can imagine how you feel. To be honest you should definitely move on from this boy as he is messing with your head. It is very hard but just try and keep yourself busy and you will eventually forget him. YOu deserve better! Just think he is being very unkind to you in the way he is messing with your feelings. Be strong! Good luck!
Thank you to anonymous who posted on 5th Sept.
ReplyDeleteRecently,i've cut all communications with him Change my phone number and hopefully can get a new job soon.i hope can start over back my beautiful life and will avoid from dating or knowing other aquarian man after this.
Hi everyone, I would like to seek your advice. I am a cancerian girl who likes an Aquarius guy at work. He'd shown interest in me for more than 1 year, the long stares, he can stare at me throughout lunch and blush when I look at him! He came near me to talk to me on his own on many occassions, got jealous when i talk more to another guy, "pacified me" when I got upset with him.. but in the end when I asked him he went "huh? he sensed no difference in the way he treats me and other colleagues". I felt very upset.. I admit am partly to blame cos I was moody towards him at times and he got upset over it before though I will apologise to him I didn't mean it. But sometimes, he will also become "distant" that upset me.. Sigh. His email reply sounded rather cold and heartless... like he never cared at all in the first place :( He went overseas to study.I cannot help but feel he did not email the complete truth. He has capricorn moon,capricorn mars, pisces venus. I would just like to know the truth... Does all his actions in the past 1.5 years mean nothing at all? Or was he lying to protect himself? I would like to know the truth so I can move on.. Thanks alot!
ReplyDeleteTo anonymous who posted on 15 Sept 11
ReplyDeleteOh, I really sympathise with you! I can imagine your torture. I know this sounds hard but you never really know what people are thinking and feeling.
In my opinion, he did have feelings for your and, perhaps, he is putting on a 'bravado front'. Remember he is a man and they are a different species to us. If you have read about aquarian men you will know that they can appear to be stand offish!
Have you thought about just being honest with him by telling him how you really feel? Maybe he was confused by the manner in which way you behaved. Good luck!
To anonymous who posted on 20 Sept 11
ReplyDeleteThanks for ur reply and concern! I really appreciate it:)
You've a point, he may b confused by my moodiness. I was moody/not friendly at times cos he is 1 of the bosses in office - I work under him last yr, but not this yr ( i went another dept). Din want others to think I suck up 2 him.. When I moody to him, I feel bad n apologise (twice officially)/ b friendlier to him next time. He seemed ok afterwards.
He showed signs of liking me, long stares at lunch, jealous when I tok> 2 another guy, “pacify” me when I upset w him, come up to me to talk to me, very happy to talk to me, laugh & joke, prolong our conversations.. But at times he turn cold, like once I email him to inform I sick, he replied “ok noted”.
When I emailed him before he left overseas to study, I asked him I sense something special at times, in our interactions, but I not sure.. ask him if it’s true? And if so, does he think we shld talk?
His reply was super cold.. He said he “does not sense any difference in way he interact with other colleages and me.. And he wrote “hope this clarifies”. As we are colleages, he promised to keep it confidential”
I cried v. hard when I saw his reply…Tho what u said is possible, he may be confused by my behaviour.. But he is now overseas.. how do I clarify? I don’t want to email again cos hard to express and if he respond negatively, my email abt all my feelings will be down in black and white..
There is nothing I can do.. Especially he will return in about 9 months time to my workplace. I feel sad, but the risk of emailing him again is too high. I have no confidence he likes me.. after he already rejected me. I fear he has already given up on me.. what do u think?
To anony who posted on 13 October 2011.
ReplyDeleteHi again, I am so very sorry about your upset.
My advice to you is to do nothing. Just wait for his return and see what happens after that. I can imagine it is very hard and upsetting but please do not e-mail him again.
You have nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about and you still have your pride. In my opinion you have behaved really honourably and still have your pride.
Believe me - if nothing becomes of you and this man you will get over it. I know at the time you think you will not but time is a healer.
By the way I am the aquarius girl who posted in August 2011 and was in a dilema whether to contact aquarius man after 5 years. The dilema is my fault but I decided not to contact him.
You never know you may meet someone else before he returns. I really hope you do. Please believe me in that you will definitely get over it. I was so very upset about aquarius man, but I did eventually get over it. Keeping yourself busy really helps.
Remember this quotation - 'The sun goes up and the sun goes down. Then one day you will realise it just does not matter anymore.'
Good luck and god bless.
Hi Anonymous who posted on 28 October 2011,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! Yes, I decided not to email him anymore. His previous reply pained me when I saw it..Aquarius gal, I'm really touched by your encouragement, that I still have my pride. Yes, I felt upset with myself, for my moodiness.. not sure if it caused him to misunderstand I never liked him.. or if he thinks I just wan “check” if “he’s interested” to “boost my ego”…(but it’s definitely not true, I like him) But no matter what, I took the courage to email him.. Yet, he did not even give me a chance to talk it out… & left me feeling so down..
Thanks also for your well wishes that I may meet someone else before he returns, for encouraging me that I will definitely get over it, even if when he comes back..haha I’m not sure if that’ll happen, it’s hard for me to develop feelings for someone. But I feel that in any relation, it should be 2-way traffic, each care for the other’s feelings.. If he is interested, I think he should contact me before he returns. But honestly, I doubt he will.I’ll do my best to occupy myself with other things, and try my best not to think of this.
Aquarius girl, I am so very sorry to hear about your upset too.. I can understand your dilemma, and the reasons for your decision not to contact him. You have my full support! Don’t be upset over it! You are a very understanding and kind person, I believe you will definitely meet someone who will care deeply for you :)
Best wishes, Cancer gal (Asia)
Hi Anonymous who posted on 28 October 2011,
ReplyDeleteHi Aquarius pal,
How have you been? I really hope you’ve been feeling ok.
I was very touched when I saw your msg, you could really understand how I felt.. and I am grateful for ur encouragement, telling me I have nothing to feel ashamed of.. that I acted honourably… Thank u so much :)
I think, I have gotten over Aqua guy. I just wanted to share with you, how it happened. There was one point I felt really terrible, I felt down, I dreaded going to work. I tried to keep busy, it distracted me but at the back of my mind, the pain, sadness was still there.. I went to the beach a number of times since I received his email. Listening to the waves, soothed my mind and made me feel a lot better, esp. after I cry out and tell myself it’s ok.
Then 1 day, I saw an old fren, & got reminded of what it was, that I really wanted to find in a partner - I wanted someone to understand, care for me, and be there for me. (This old guy was just a platonic friend to me, but he really cared for me as a friend in the past. I do NOT like him in that way, anyway he is already attached I will never be 3rd party!) But it just reminded me of what was most impt to me..Truly care for me and be there for me. Then I realized how “Aqua guy” treated me.. so cold, heartless.. then it struck me he probably was not someone I am looking for, after all.
Thus, I hope it would make you feel better, if you can think of it this way, that if this person does not treat you well, they probably are not the one for you or I.
That said, Aqua girl, I would like to ask you.. What is the chance you would see this guy again? If the chance is almost zero (you both are not living in same city, not in same company), and if you still think of him, I think there is no harm dropping him a facebook msg. I read your earlier posts, you mentioned you would just like to know if he is attached, or “get him out of ur system”. I think you don’t have to say “I like you”, you can just drop a casual “Hi, it’s been a long time since we have met. How’ve u been?” or another quick way is to check his profile. I think, if there’s no chance I will meet the guy again, I would be willing to take the risk to drop a msg.
However, if you have already got him out of ur system, then pls ignore what I wrote above. I hope I am not blabbering on.. But I really hope that you will be able to get over this once and for all. Or, what if he really did think of u in the past years and was waiting for u to make the first move? You never know.. Of cos, 5 years I do acknowledge is a long time, so I can fully understand your dilemma. No matter which decision you make, you’ve my full support :) Wishing you happiness always!
Cancer pal (singapore)
I met my aquarius a year and a half ago. He was talking to an associate of mine and when he realized we knew each other he ditched her for me. He came on so strong. He was calling me wife the first nite we hung out, and immediatley told me (didn't ask me) he told me I was his gf, which took me by surprise bc most guys NEVER do that. After that he was sooo different. We never really talked. Some weeks we txtd everyday then months with no contact. Then he told me after 4 or 5 months that we would have kids 2 yrs down the road. Totally doing my head in.
ReplyDeleteId see him out he'd ignore me, yet talk 2 everyone else in the room, but would stare at me all nite and follow me around the room lol. When he disappeared at first I took that as he broke up with me, when he finally came out of hiding I was hanging with someone else and he was PISSED. He said "I shouldve known better, and that he was busy handling business" WTF?? When were Together its so intense and the connection so strong. We went months without talking and during this tme many rumors were spread about us from so called friends trying to keep us apart. After 3 months we tlkd to discuss the rumors and all the drama from so called friends and it brought us closer. After all that he finally told me he was in love with me and said he was ready for marriage and kids. Of course after that he disappeared. I know they dnt handle emotions well and their foreign languages to them. I knew the moment he said I luv u that I wouldn't see him for a while after that.
Never understood his behavior until I started reading up on them and it all made sense. I'm a taurus (scorpio moon) and of course I like stability. I know if he said I luv u he means it but I can't take the back and forth. I try not to get to emotional about it bc I know that'll make him run but I need to be fair to myself. I'm stubborn, so is he and I dnt wana continue to give of myself and compromise when he doesn't for me. He's such an amazing man. He's gorgeous, amazing body, funny, smart, and charming and thru all this I luv him more everyday even when were not speaking
I wish he wouldn't run from our relationship bc were so beautiful together. idk how much more I can take. HELP ME PLEASE!!!
Hi Anonymous who posted on 28 October 2011,
ReplyDeleteHow've u been? I hope u've been fine! Sorry I hope I have not been too 'nosy' to make those suggestions in the earlier post.. I re-read ur earlier posts and saw in 1 post that u wrote u have gotten over that person. I am really sorry! I shld have read ur posts more carefully. I hope my posts have not caused u any discomfort or upset.. if it did, I really did not mean it! Different people have different ways of coping with situations. I shld not have been so 'presumptuous' and suggested the above to u! Pls ignore them.
I respect your decision not to contact him. You are right, keeping busy helps one to not think of that issue.
I like ur quotation 'The sun goes up and the sun goes down. Then one day you will realise it just does not matter anymore.'
I will like to share one with you too, written by an actress, incidentally she's also Aquarius: "I don't know what will happen in the future, but I hope that everyday will be filled with hope. This feeling of anticipation feels very good. It doesn't matter if the journey is smooth or rough, right or wrong, what was done in life cannot be undone, which is why I have never looked back [on my past]."
I hope u'll be happy always :)
Cancer, who is grateful for all ur advice
it is not easy when you’re falling in love with aquarians. it much more difficult to walk away from them. They are likely to have a pretty good instinct and will come back to you over n over again when you decided to leave him. The day when i decided to walk away,he will surprised me unexpected behavior. One thing i realized is he just knew everything like psychic..he knew when i miss him..he knew when i’m sad..he just knew w/out me telling him. It happened so many times.when i feel sad and pain, he will text and call me..the day i decided to move on, then he will ask to meet me and so on…it is pretty normal he just left w/out any news for 5-6 months.no text,no calls,no emails…and when i decide he is not worth to wait and just give up then he will appear out of nowhere..i’m taurean and it is not easy for me to handle this kind of relationship.The love towards him is so strong.never experienced this kind of emotions before..it’s weird..really hope can escape from this relationship and move on but right now,i’m stuck. it almost a year and really hope can meet someone else but no more aquarian..This sign just gives me a terrible pain…
ReplyDeleteTo Cancer Pal (Singapore)
ReplyDeleteHi it is Miss Aquarius!! Thank you so much for your kind messages.
It is ok about advising me to contact Mr Aquarius on Facebook. Please do not feel bad. Yeah - I know it sounds a bit of a complicated story but really, I have decided not to contact him even though it is tempting. I suppose that is what Facebook is about - contacting people after years.
Anyway, it is 5 years ago and I do not want to take the risk. Anyhow there could be pictures on his facebook of him and his girlfriend. Would not really want to see them as it would hurt me. All in all, it was my fault! As you read, he did ask me out and I declined and I suppose he thought, when I eventually got in contact with him, that I was probably messing around.
Well, I have got over him but there will always be a place in my heart for him. Actually, I would just like to see him once just to have a conversation with him and tell him the truth. He does not live too far from me - about 40 miles. You know - I do have a feeling that one day I will bump into him. I pray for it.
Anyhow, I was so pleased to hear that you are feeling better about that boy. Yeah, that was a really good thing that happened - you bumping into that lovely boy and reminding you of nice qualities. You sound quite young so I am sure you will find someone else and this boy will become a distant memory. As I said to you, time really is a healer. When you meet someone new past people just fade in your memory. Have you found that? I find that happens all the time. Nothing lasts forever!
Thanks for saying that you like my quotation. Bless you. That one you sent me makes so much sense. Really gonna take heed of it.
At the moment I have joined an on line dating site to find someone. Actually I am in my 30s and time is running out for me to have a family so I have had to resort to this. Do not know if you are religious but please pray that I find someone soon. I am not really religous but am a real believer and find a lot of comfort praying.
Til next time. YOu sound very nice. YOu deserve to be happy. God bless Love Miss Aquarius from England, United Kingdom
To Cancer Pal (Singapore)
ReplyDeleteHi again, I forget to say in my message yesterday. I do not know if you celebrate Christmas but I wish you a very happy Christmas and a happy new year. Hope all your wishes come true in 2012.
Wish we could exchange e mail addresses so we could send pictures but I am reluctant to put my e-mail address on here.
Til next time. I am really enjoying reading your messages and finding out how you are getting on. So glad you value my advice. GOd bless. Love from Miss Aquarius, England, United Kingdom
To Taurus lady who posted on 26 and 28 November (I think it is the same lady).
ReplyDeleteHi there. I am an aquarius girl and have put several posts on this page about my dilema with an aquarius man.
Oh, I feel so sorry for you! YOu sound in real torture over this situation. It sounds like this aquarius man has genuine feelings about you but has some personal problems. Perhaps he does not know how to deal with his feelings. However, it is not fair on you. It is not right that he is hot and cold on you like this.
Really hope you get this sorted out with him as you deserve some sort of commitment from him whether he wants to be your man or not.
Yes, I know aquarius people do find it hard to establish a relationship probably due to their free-spirited nature. I am an aquarius and I think I feel like that. I really value my independence and have a mind of my own. HOwever, I know of aquariun men who are married and settled. Actually my brother is an aquarius and he is married to a capricorn girl. I think she brings him down to earth!! However he is very opinionated and has to have his own hobbies and space.
Really hope you can meet this man and have a real heart to heart with him. Please take my advice and do not run after him or else he may distance himself more. I know it is really hard.
I wish you all the luck. Really sympathise with you and wish you all the best. GOd bless.
From Aquarius girl, England, United Kingdom
Hi Aquarius Girl posted on 1 Dec,
ReplyDeleteFYI, we're not the same person . But i can guess we're having the same problem with aqua man.LOL..
i have a lot of aqua friends.They find that i'm fun to be with and i like to be with them because they are crazy,intellectual and
unpredictable.
I'm not sure whether the air elements in my chart play the major role but 7 out of 11 planets are in air element-gemini n libra n mostly in libra sign with desc in aqua.lol
I hope can forget,forgive n move on..that's all
Hey, if u're celebrating christmas,wish u merry christmas n thanks for your kind advised..:)
From Taurus girl 28/12
Hi Ms Aquarius!
ReplyDeleteI am really happy to hear from you! :) Apologies for the later reply as I went overseas for a week short holiday.
Really glad to hear that you’re feeling much better abt Mr Aquarius. Don’t feel bad abt what happened 5 years ago, you definitely did try to salvage the situation by asking him again! I understand what you mean about the risk part, and not wanting to contact him on Facebook.. I agree you should not take the risk to contact him via facebook, if that may hurt you. I also feel that it’s better to talk face-to-face.
I understand how you feel, about wanting to meet him just once to tell him the truth. I pray that you’ll be able to bump into him and have the chance to tell him this!
Ms Aquarius, I maybe 2 quick to say I “got over” Aqua colleague.. I still feel hurt when I think of his cold his email reply.. can’t help wonder what he’s really thinking? still can’t believe that all the interactions btw us for past 1.5 yrs, meant nothing at all.. Long stares, jealous when I talked to another guy, approaching me & talking to me so happily, joking, trying to prolong conversations, angry when I ignore him...
I know it’s my fault that I was moody to him.. I was worried to ‘let others know I like him’, didn’t wan others to think I’m ‘sucking up to boss’ (tho he’s not my boss now). But if, he’d any feelings for me, & was confused by my moodiness, I wish he could ve at least given me a chance to talk it out? I asked him if he thinks we shld talk? & he replied coldly..
Ms Aquarius, thanks so much for ur advice to me not to contact him, I really appreciate it :) I’ll not take any initiative to contact him, the risk’s too big and I want to preserve my dignity. Ms Aquarius, I’ll like to seek your advice.. It’s been 5 months since his reply. I checked on 1 Dec, he did not mail me again.. Do u think I shld continue to wait for him to come bk? His course ends in June 2012.
Haha, actually I’m not that young, I’ve reach 30. I very much like to settle down and start my own family too. But, it must be with the right person.. I guess, I just want to seek closure with Mr Aqua & move on once & for all. But in short of contacting him (which I’ll not do it), there’s no way I can ascertain how he really thinks feels.. For us, we celeb Chinese new year, CNY (ard 21 Jan 2012), he may come bk then (a colleage who went same course came bk for CNY last yr). I’m thinking, if I shld assume that if by CNY, he still doesn’t contact me at all, I shld just move on? What do you think?
Ms Aquarius, I think that it is good that you have taken a concrete step in searching for your happiness! Don’t use the word ‘resort’, it is common nowadays in asia society for us to go to online dating. With our hectic working lives, it’s real tough to meet someone when we spend so many hours working :( there’s nothing wrong with online dating, but do be careful when u first meet up with someone. Just to be on the safe side, inform ur family the meeting place & time. Best to meet at a public place, and get a friend to go with you! Ms Aquarius, I really pray that you’ll find the right person for you!! You are a wonderful person who definitely deserve happiness :)
Here I'll like to wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year in advance! Wishing that all your wishes come true :)
Best Wishes, Cancer pal (Singapore)
Hi Ms Aquarius!
ReplyDeleteI have tried to post msgs online after my last msg on 9 Dec, but they were not published I dunno why :(
I hope you've been fine Ms Aquarius!
Warmest wishes,
Cancer pal
To Cancer Pal who posted on 9 December and 13 December
ReplyDeleteHi it is Ms Aquarius here! Thank you so much for you message and your kind advice. It is really good to read someone else's perspective of the situation with that Aquarius man. Honest, I am ok. It is a long time ago now but as I said still wanna meet him so I suppose deep down I am not completely over him. Thank you for your prayers. That means so much to me. You know I think you only truly get over someone when you actually meet someone else you like. The mind is such a funny thing. Sometimes I think I am really fickle and do forget him when I am thinking about other men. Oh I know sounds terrible but life does go on.
Of course I can really relate to your situation. Wish I knew the right advice to give you. As I say, I think you just need to meet someone else who is worthy of you. Really hope you have a good set of friends who you see and socialise with. I know that really helps. When you do see this man again, just act ordinary and ask him how he his. Don't show any anger towards him. Actually I think you already have the right attitude. Is there any way you would just message him to say Happy New Year? There is nothing wrong in doing this and you will not hurt your pride.
Oh that is strange that your messages were not published. Perhaps send a message and ask them as it could just be a mistake.
Yeah, I am still doing on line dating but nothing just yet. I am really hoping the New Year brings good things. Really pray for it.
Honest, I am sure that you are going to be ok. You sound like a sensible girl and please do not worry everything will work out and one day you will look back and it won't hurt anymore.
I wish you so much luck for the Chinese New Year next year. Of course I am celebrating Xmas and New Year. ACtually I am half asian. Do not really wanna give out too much information on this site. Til next time.
Kind regards with prayers Ms Aquarius
I am a capricorn girl who is about to lose her mind over an aquarius guy... We had something 2 years ago but it went wrong even though I really love him... He was involved with a girl before me who was his first love and she broke his heart... We started out talikng about her with me giving him advices and cheering him up... he began to flirt with me short after this... he knew I was with someone else but he kept on chasing me.. I wasn´t in love with my boyfriend anymore so it was easy for him to convince me.. after he gave me our first kiss I was totally lost... I couldn´t get him out my mind!! We ended up becoming lovers and a couple... he actually asked me to be his girlfriend... I thought he was interested in me but he told me he didn´t want to be so involved with me... and then he began to act like sex was the only thing he was looking from me... He told me he loved me but he was acting like this and I didn´t knew what to do...!!! He finally dumped me with some pathethic excuse... I was devastated but I didn´t show it to him...
ReplyDeleteA few months later he began calling me... and texting me.. telling he was sorry and I was so good.. that he was a jerk with me in the past.. But, I didn´t answer to that...
Til one day he called me and arrenged a meeting with me... he show up in my house and apollogized about what he did to me, then he told me about his problems and told he came back to his ex but it didn´t work out because he didn´t love her anymore.. he also told me he became involved with another girl but she broke his heart (later I found out she had a boyfriend- yep just like me- and he didn´t dump him for this aquarius guy).
Then he began to act really weird and I though he was too sad and tried to confort him.. he kept telling me.. "I am bad person" and when I asked him why he told me.. "Because after all.. I still wanna kis you"..
I was shocked but I told him I couldn´t kiss him.. I was already with someone else.. He was shocked by he managed to congratulate me....
But the weird thing didn´t stop there!!! after the kissing request he asked me if I could hold him and I did.. he also lay in my legs and started to fall sleep???
I was confused and angry.. After our meeting he called me for about a month... He didn´t said much to me... he made akward silences on the phone... I don´t understand!! why did he call me If he didn´t wanna talk to me???
Well, later he stoped calling me and when I saw him again, he didn´t even said "hi" to me.. like he was angry or something...
The last thing he did is telling me "happy new year"... he also said he loved me like a special person for him... when I asked him why he did the things he did in teh past he just said that he was a fool but he really loved me and cared for me and that he was sorry for hurting me.... then he stopped answering me and dissapeared....
Please I need help... I don´t know If he cares about me or not... and it´s hurting me... I´m sad all the time and so confused.... :( please I need some advice...
Hi Ms Aquarius!! :)
ReplyDeleteI´m the cappy girl... Well my aquarius told me he is going to talk to me about the reasons he hurt me in the past.. but I don´t if it wil ever happen.. I don´t trust him... I feel like it´s something he doesn´t really wanna say to me... maybe because he doesn´t wanna hurt me or he doesn´t wanna face the truth of his actions...
The thing is... I think I still want him... because I still think about him and wait for him to talk to me...
I am really sad... why doesn´t he just get out of my life? if he doesn´t really want me... he should do that..
Because it kills me... not seeing him and his dissapearing acts...
Ladies, I feel ya! I am a Capricorn and my love is Aqua. We had a two month whirlwind them he got distant at our peak and got bad about communicating (we're long distance). He dumped me for no reason "I don't want to get hurt" but after days or weeks of no contact he'd pop back in my life as if nothing happened and we'd continue our plans. He called me perfect, the love of his life, and said he'd marry me by April. By then he'd cut off ties again even after I bought our rings. He repeated this pattern all last year, driving me nuts! I cried so much I'm ashamed to say, I'd vow to never speak to him again but as soon as he came crawling back I'd give in to his pretty words. He says there's no one else for him, that the girls there are boring, that he thinks of me every day. He still says "when we get married..." but I haven't even seen him for 13 months. On new years eve I cleansed myself of him and sent him back his ring in the mail. Not an hour later he emailed for the first time since Halloween and we skyped two nights then he broke contact again. It's my birthday today and I haven't heard from him just like last year. It's the same pattern over and over. I'm glad I'm not alone but I am ready to say goodbye for now, deal with your issues and don't contact me til you show up at my doorstep ready to fulfill your promises to me. I've had it, and I don't want to spend my 30s or 2012 the same miserable way I spent 2011. It's just so hard cuz I've dated others meanwhile and feel nothing. No one comes close to him!!!
ReplyDeleteI know! They are so selfish playing those games with us and we.... I don´t know what are we.... for waiting for them to change.. they´re not gonna change for us...
ReplyDeleteIn my case I´va had it, i don´t wanna ever see his face again and I decided not talk to him even If he calls me...
He just doesn´t deserve anything from me... I can´t be a good person with him because he takes advantage of it and it´s not fair!! I´m not his fool!!!
I didn´t wanted to hate him but he really had make efforts for that....
Dear Ms Aquarius, this is Cancer pal, I am so sorry for the later reply!!! I had gone on a trip with a good friend, but it turned out quite disastrous cos not only did I not enjoy the trip (too long, too few places to go and it was super hot), but I caught a virus from my fren who was sick (coughing badly) so I fell quite sick when I got back. Saw doctor 3 times! I am finally feeling better, just before Chinese New Year.
ReplyDeleteMs Aquarius, you are right that we need to find another person, to ‘occupy’ our thots, in order to forget someone. I won’t call it ‘dis-loyal’, cos it’s not like that Aquarius guy I am thinking of, even remembers me in the first place. He could have clean forgotten abt me. I guess, this is a way of giving us “new hope” by looking for someone who we might like, and is hopefully available and likes us back… There’s nothing wrong with that at all, don’t worry!
During this entire month I was feeling unwell I did a lot of thinking. I have finally come to a realization that I am over Mr Aquarius. Mainly cos I ask myself what kind of guy I want, and loyalty and reliability are very important to me. These, he has none. I checked my email yesterday, nothing. He can’t even be bothered to wish me Happy new year or something. It hurt in the past but now I have made up my mind to move on from this guy who cares nothing for me, there’s absolutely no point in dwelling on it except bring myself pain. And I hope for myself I will be able to find the right person for me, hopefully before he’s back.
Ms Aquarius, I sincerely hope that you’ll be able to find the right person for you soon too! :) Do update me ok? Here I will also like to wish you Happy Birthday in advance!:)
Warmest Wishes,
Cancer Pal (Singapore)
Hiya, have read the above posts and think I have a similar experience going on at the moment, I too am an Aqua & so is he, we met via face book last year and found out we both went to the same school. lived in the same Town etc (he now lives abroad) He was very full on to begin with but then seemed to withdraw then back on but we seemed to get over this, so he then came to the UK to visit me and was a perfect gentleman (he explained he did not want to get hurt and had just recently lost his mother so I took this into account and did not make a move on him as did not seem appropriate at the time) after he went home he seemed to slip away, no contact so I deleted him as thought he was not interested any more, later he sent me messages and said he wanted to see me again, (this has been on and off over a period of 10 months, I have deleted him again and again but he kept coming back as the same old behaviour over and over, he acting as if nothing happened or anything changed, we recently got back in touch, we spoke on the phone and he said again he wanted to see me and indicated he may like to settle back here again as was not happy where he was but after the call he promised to come over to see me but kept making excuses about confirming dates to come, this angered me so I sent him a nasty message and deleted him again which now I do regret, this sort of childish behaviour is not normally me but despite me being very attracted to him (and he said he was to me) he is driving me crazy, am I being tested ? is he for real, please advise me is it wise to hang on and be patient or to just let this go as it is tearing me apart ??
ReplyDeleteA frustrated Aqua Female x
I´ve been in love with an aquarius man for years... He says he care about me and that he wants me but he ruin eveything soon after saying this by flirting with me in very rude ways even though he knows I´m with someone right know. I haven´t make any type of proposition to him... even though I have feelings for him and I like him. But I don´t understand at all... why does he say that he cares about me and then he act like that? Is he playing with me? Does he think that just because I´ve been with him in the past he can have me whenever he wants? PLEASE help me... I really don´t know what to do or think. I think I love him...and this is hurting me so bad. My sign is Capricorn.
ReplyDeleteHi everyone! I need some advice please.
ReplyDeleteI am a Scorpio I am talking to an Aquarius, I've know. Him all my life but I never spoke to him till like 2 years ago we were Feb once and when I told him what I felt he told me he just liked me as a friend. So I felt hurt I stopped talking to him for a out 6months. During that time I found out he kept asking my friends for me and trying to get ahold of me. After that he came to my house and apologized and we became friends again. Its been a whole since then. He gives me mixed signals on everything. Its like we r in a relationship however we don't hold the title. He says he doesn't have time for a girl and doesn't want commitment yet he does otherwise. I am really into him. I am sure he knows how i feel about him yet i am not going to put myself out there again. I just want to know what can i do to actually get him to want more.
Thanks.
Hi I'm a Taurus female and I am very interested in this Aqua man. He acts like he likes me, he pops up at my house and flirts with me..pokes me in my sides and when we all went out to a group outing he was upset bc i was late and said he didn't think I would show up..later that night we talked and he says he doesn't like me in that way but it's the way he looks at me and the way he acts..he jsut not to long ago got out of a hurtful relationship so I know he is afraid..HELP what do I do,does he like me,is he playin hard to get or is he really being honest and he jst dont like me....LRB
ReplyDeleteCancer here. Currently being pursued by an Aquarius guy. Unfortunately, we have almost everything in common and “understand” each other so I'm already in dangerous territory. However, I've experienced similar houdini acts with a Libra man before so I'm not planning on taking things too seriously with this Aqua dude.
ReplyDeleteQuite frankly, if you're a sign that requires any form of stability in a relationship (or a relationship at all for that matter), I would advise not to allow yourself to fall victim to any Aquaman's fish hooks (eg. their charm, their bouts of affections, their sudden declarations of love, etc.). Nothing against them, but from my experience and from what I can see of this guy, they don't know how to properly express their emotions (not their fault of course), therefore, you'll never receive a straight answer from them when they do give you the dreaded cold shoulder. I know it's just their natural response to things, but it inadvertently hurts those who shouldn't have to deal with the "unknown" in the first place.
If you're dating him, be cautious. Don't allow yourself to be controlled by their ticking time bombs of withdrawals, because once you're caught in that whirlwind of: "I love you" (disappears) "I'm sorry, I just didn't want to get hurt, I still love you" (disappears) "I want you, blah blah blah" (disappears), you'll be losing valuable time that could be spent on someone who isn't quite as flighty (no offense). Granted, they're awesome and funny friends, but as lovers... I'd wait until they've matured to the point where they're ready to actually settle down. I have a date planned this weekend with this Aquarian, but after seeing the way he responds to being (offended?), I'm not terribly keen on him as much nor on taking this 'date' beyond a simple friendship. I'm just going to have to accept the fact that we have a shit ton in common and that's it. Move on. No similar interest is worth suffering emotional turmoil.
About the 'offended' thing above, I must have said something to hurt him, but I'll never know of course because he doesn't seem the type to admit to anything. Only thing that made me aware something was up was him suddenly giving me the silent treatment and then being darkly sarcastic. Both of which stopped just as suddenly as soon as I apologized (for nothing in particular) and then he acts like nothing was ever wrong and proceeds to talk as he normally does. *Scratches head*
If there is a way to get them to actually communicate things without emotions, or their fear of emotions getting in the way, please enlighten me. It’s probably just my Cancer propensities, but I don’t see how it could hurt to sit down and have a composed, adult conversation about issues and get things over with that way. Much easier than constantly disappearing and depriving the couple of valuable time together.